The beginning of a new relationship is sooooo wonderful.
Everything's fun and exciting (even a tad scary). But it's such a RELIEF
to FINALLY find someone you're attracted to and can connect with.
Aaaahhhh....
This is also a time when a man...when he's REALLY into a woman...can call or
e-mail or text her constantly.
"I really like him," my client Jane whined. "But I don't
know. It's just...he's calling me all the time."
I sensed that even though Jane was flattered, she was a bit annoyed. Like
the guy was soooo into her that she was actually bothered.
Guess what, girls?
That's a GOOD thing!
You WANT a guy to keep calling and texting and e-mailing. It's when he
STOPS that you start worrying!
Most guys are single-focused. And more simple-minded than women.
(This is not an insult...it's the way nature made us.)
When a man is REALLY into a woman, he pretty much targets his attention towards
her and wants to be with her. Constantly. That means...most of the
time.
Many women don't get this. (I didn't.) (Way back when.)
Jane was overwhelmed by so much attention, that she did the exact opposite of
what she really wanted to happen.
Jane thwarted her man's pursuit by not taking his calls or not being available
to see him and (arrrrggghhhh) telling him that he calls too much!
And guess what?
He STOPPED calling.
And guess what?
Jane is "whining" that the guy never calls like he used to.
Duuuuhhhh!
YOU trained him into it, Jane! You were annoyed when he called! You
punished him for NOT doing it YOUR way!
Ladies, Pleeeaaassse!
When God gives you a gift of manna from the heavens, say "YES.
THANK-YOU. PLEASE."
Don't clobber him when he calls! Don't push him away when he's really
into you! Don't thwart his efforts by telling him you can do it yourself
or you don't need "that" or you can pay for it yourself!
Geeezzz!
Say "Thank you" when he calls. Say "Yes!" when he
invites you out for Thursday (although you want to go out on Saturday).
And for God's sake, say "Please" when he offers to do something nice
for you!
Ladies, if you can properly guide a man to give, protect and cherish you,
EVERYBODY wins. HE wins because he feels good doing it. YOU win
because you feel good receiving it.
So the next time a guy you like starts calling you TOOOOO much say, (altogether
now) "Yes. Thank-you. Please."
(Again..."Yes. Thank-you. Please"...and again...)
And be HAPPY when he calls you back!
Cherry Norris is a renowned celebrity dating
coach, workshop director and popular speaker. Based in ,
Cherry is an official dating coach for Cupid's Coach matchmaking service and
the relationship expert on Catherine Oxenberg's TV pilot, Practical Princess. Cherry has lead workshops around the
and .
She has been featured in The LA Times, The
Reporter, Divine Caroline, and Women's World.
Cherry's passion is helping people build healthy, intimate
romantic relationships. Under her direction, you will learn the skills and
techniques for dating that will have you starring in the role of a lifetime
opposite the co-star you've been waiting for!
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