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Buy me a rose,
call me from work,
open the door for me what will it hurt.
Show me you love me by the look in your eyes.
These are the little things that mean the most
in my life.
Luther Vandross
Ladies if you didn't know it, men are not as instinctive as women, and therefore do not often naturally know what we need or want. Not that they aren't interested in our needs or wants but they aren't mind readers. When we were younger we were told that Mr. Right would be tall, and handsome. We were also led to believe that the perfect man would not only be sensitive to our needs, but would also know us so well that he could sense our needs without us saying a word. YEAH RIGHT! We have to tell them.
In too many relationships the woman is not completely fulfilled or happy, and often the man pays for this in ways he may not even realize. Some women get frustrated in their relationships. This leads to arguments and unhappiness. And the men can't always see why it is happening. Well, I am going to tell you exactly what women want have always wanted and will always be looking for in any man with whom they become intimate. When I asked my friends "What do women really want?" I received as many different answers as I have friends.
"I want a man to RESPECT me. Treat me the way I should be treated. We are human and no one is perfect. We may not always see eye to eye but if we respect each other as adults and human beings. We can agree or disagree and still have love for each other."
" I want a man that loves the Lord and respects him as the head of his house; a man that will put me second only to God, A man hat doesn't need to define himself by the amount in his wallet. And I want a man that is ready to walk through the hard times and not just walk away from them."
"I want a man that is mindful, compassionate, and understanding. He needs to respect the women in his life (sister, mother grandmother). If he can't respect the person that gave him life, he can't respect me."
"I want a man with vision, one with goals and the aspiration to be something more than what he is at the time. I want a friend. I want to be able to talk and communicate openly about anything no matter how embarrassing it may seem to be. Most of all I want passion. Sex is good but it's nothing without intimacy and romance. I don't want to feel like an object. Sometimes we just want to be caressed and held. It doesn't always have to end in intercourse."
"I want consideration. Listen to what I have to say and not just hear me. I want conversation and not just a one word answer when something is wrong."
After reading these responses, I realized that women don't all want the same qualities in a man. What we want varies to suit each individual personality and to reflect our own personal interests and values. When considering if someone is "Mr. Right", ask yourself:
What are my weaknesses, and does he have what I need to balance those out?
What are my hobbies and interests?
Do I like to go out and socialize on a regular basis, or do I want to live in a cocoon?
Is this person emotionally and intellectually my equal?
Does this person share my faith and spirituality?
What will I not tolerate in his behavior or attitudes to life? This list could go on forever, but I'm sure you get the point I'm trying to make.
In a nutshell, women want a man who shares their values, hobbies and interests. We want someone who possesses the key qualities we respect and admire. We want our "Mr. Right" to accept us and love us for who we really are and to treat us with respect and honor. So, maybe it shouldn't be such a big secret after all, should it?
» left by James P Krehbiel(1,326) James P Krehbiel (159 days 21 hours ago.)
Gwendolyn, Wonderful article. I'll keep your comments in mind as I continue my "work in progress" with my wife. LOL Thanks alot.
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