My husband of 15 years has been having an affair for 5 years and he
still denies it. He sends the other woman text messages everyday saying
how much he loves her. I asked him to decide whom he really wants and
not to let me stand in their way of happiness. If he loves her I'll set
him free even though this will hurt the children but I cannot stay with
someone who doesn't love me. Otherwise he is a very good husband and
father. Am I doing the right thing? (minimal edits)
Essential to being a "good husband and a good father" is emotional,
physical, and financial faithfulness. While your husband is invested in
romantic pursuits outside of the marriage all he is really good at is
make believe.
No one can tell you the "right thing" to do. This is something you have to decide.
It seems both your husband and the other woman have little dissonance regarding their duplicity.
The inner-part of you that cannot tolerate the pretense, or the
lie, or playing second fiddle, is the healthy part of you, and it ought
not to be denied or silenced.
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» left by James P Krehbiel(1,579) James P Krehbiel (147 days 22 hours ago.)
Rod, As as therapist myself, your response to this woman was well put and appropriate. Thanks for the article. At first I was confused by this article until I went to your website. Be well
» left by Anonymous (147 days 22 hours ago.)
Dear James: I am very new to SearchWarp but very familiar with the workings of my own website. I am sure I will post with greater clarity once I know the system. Thanks for reading and thanks for taking the time to comment. I am always open to help to be a better communicator. Rod Smith
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