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There is not doubt that sometime in each of our lives we will have to say that final Good Bye to someone or something that was critical in our lives. They may just drift slowly out of our lives or they may just disappear in a flash, we truly never know for sure. We may say good-bye after they have left or maybe before they themselves know they will go.
And good-bye doesn't mean that someone is alive or dead, close or far away it means that things will never be the same with that person. They may move away to another place out of contact. They may just change from the person you knew and grew close to. They may die, or become incapacitated. You will still have to deal with good-bye.
Now good-bye also doesn't mean saying it verbally, it could also mean just acting it out. It can mean so many things that all come down to saying some way "things are different". For each case of saying good-bye there is different actions that probably happen or just naturally occur when letting go. These situations are almost always sad and at the same time almost always a step forward in the road of life. I hope to show you what may happen when letting go in life.
The Final "Good Bye" of a Friendship
Friends are people that not only help us through life but also become part of our lives. They craft who we are and shape our wants, desires, and dreams. That is why saying that final good-bye in this situation is one of the hardest. Letting go of a true friend is the result of many things from death to just plain change. This wide variety makes it difficult to really find the right way for you to have that final good bye. In this situation you have to always remember the good times. Yes this sounds really cheesy but its true. If you remember the good times and always keep them with you, you are only letting go of one part of them. This is good because it is true in almost all situations in this category. If the friend died than you have a part of them always with you. If they just left than still you have part of them always with you. If they just become something that harms you and you find out is just plain bad for you, you yet again still have part of them always with you. If you remember the good all the time, than the final good-bye is only to the part that you can never really hold onto.
The Final "Good Bye" of a Family Member
Family is more of a living entity than just a group of individuals. It lives and breathes having each member being a vital part of it. Of coarse you may like different parts more than other and even some you may just down right hate. But the fact is that they are a part of it and when they leave it hurts the entire being. The only true way that a family member could leave totally is in death. And death already being a horrible and frightening thing only makes the situation worse. There is no way to completely deal with the death of a family member but there are ways to help. When they pass on try to remember just the little anecdotes about them. Those little stories piled together create and image of that person, an image that you can always hold dear. This is like the loss of a friend but with family the pain can be more intense because of the fact that they are family. That is why you need to remember both the good and the bad anecdotes to make a realistic image of them. If you see and make that image than you know that the time you spent with them was worth it. The lessons learned and the stories told will follow you forever.
The Final "Good Bye" of an Experience
This is most abstract and bigger than the other categories because it deals with time itself. This section talks about letting go and keeping with you the memories of maybe summer camp or a relationship. Letting go ranges wildly in the amount of strength needed in this section because experiences can last long or short times and can have large or small impacts on the person we are. They can also end and start nicely or cruelly. So a simple rule to saying good-bye to any experience is to look ahead at those ahead. Each and every experience in one's lifetime creates us. And if we stay on one for too long we miss out on growing and learning from the others. Nothing lasts forever and when we try to make them last forever we only end up hurting ourselves more eventually. So after that hard break up, or after that last day at camp just look ahead to the times in the future. Keep the lessons made in the past and move forward into the future.
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