Hey ladies, you recently met a new man, he's got a little bad boy in him but not enough to make you head for the hills. He is nice enough but something in you makes you hesitant about him. How do you know if he is a diamond in the ruff and has potential or just a lump of coal and you should be on your way? Here are 10 sure fire signs to help keep you from wasting your time and his.
Sign 1. Does he constantly talk on his cellphone when you are together?
No, unless he is expecting an urgent call, his phone is off or on vibrate. --A diamond
Yes, he is constantly taking calls and then apologizing. --Lump of coal
Sign 2. Does he initiate some of your plans to get together or does he just wait for you to call and make plans?
We're both busy but it flows back and forth pretty well. We seem to have an equal interest. --A definite diamond
Unless I call and invite him we never seem to get together. --Lump of Coal
Sign 3. Does he make eye contact when you talk to each other?
Yes, he is pretty attentive, he seems to be interested in what I have to say. --He just may be a diamond.
No, his eyes rarely make contact with mine, he's usually concentrating on other parts of my anatomy. --Ditch this lump of coal.
Sign 4. Does he introduce you to the people he knows when you are hanging out in mixed company?
Yes, he politely introduces me by name to people he knows when we are at our favorite club or restaurant. -- A diamond
No, he quickly moves away or just nods at the people he knows when I am with him. --Lump of coal
Sign 5. Does he disappear on his days off or on the weekends?
No, we don't see each other every weekend but I can easily talk with or see him on his downtime. --A diamond
Yes, he disappears, he doesn't return my calls or text messages until Monday with some excuse. -- A lump of coal who is probably married.
Sign 6. Does he offer to pay for some of your outings?
Yes, sometimes I pay and sometimes he does? A hidden diamond
No, I often pay or we split the bill. --Run for the hills, he's a lump of coal.
Sign 7. Does he constantly talk about all of his ex-girlfriends or partners?
Just briefly, but we try not to focus on the past. --A diamond
Yes, and how boring. If he is not talking about his ex's, he is always checking out other woman. -- A lump of coal.
Sign 8. Does he only call you late at night and on the spur of the moment to try to get you to come over?
No, we meet at different times and usually with prior planning. --A diamond
Yes, he says he has been busy working but that I've been on his mind. --This is better known as a "bootie call", he's a lump of coal.
Sign 9. Does he tell you he is going to do something then fails to follow through? On top of that either completely ignores the situation or blames it on something or someone else?
No, if he can't do or changes his mind about something, he is good at telling me beforehand. --A diamond
Yes, on occasion he has failed to follow through and he just hoped I wouldn't notice. -- A lump of coal
Sign 10. Is he curious about your likes and dislikes, your work, your interests, your future plans?
Yes, now and then he asks me about myself, we've found we have a few things in common. -- A diamond
No, not really, he never asks and when I volunteer information about myself he hardly pays attention. I usually just get a blank stare. --A lump of coal
If you find you have more lumps of coal than diamonds you may want to rethink this budding relationship. As the saying goes "He is just not that into you." Don't waste your time thinking he will make some changes. More important than this is to find out within yourself, why you are attracting this type of person.
Our personal vibes make us seem approachable or unapproachable to other people. We draw relationships into our lives based on our true internal feelings about ourselves, whether they be conscious or unconscious feelings.
A better way of finding a great mate is to put all your efforts into truly feeling good about who you are and good about where you are in life. From this inner work, positive loving relationships will start to show up. You won't have to burnish or buff any coal so hard in order to find your diamond.
Priscilla Parham coaches on awareness and goal setting for your health, your business and your relationships, motivating others to rebuild from the inside-out. Join her at http://motivatingmessages.ning.com/
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