We all think life is complicated when in fact it is quite simple. The dramas we create for ourselves …well, they are ours, plain and simple. Doesn't matter what it is, where it is, or what you think caused it, it is your drama and you created your own piece of it.
In this way, life is simple. Think about this for a minute. Any situation, any circumstance that comes your way, you have to choose how you are going to "be" in relationship to it.
Your best friend comes over and brings you dinner on a busy day. You will define yourself by how you choose to be in relation to this event. It is just an event like the thousands you have every day. Each time you must do the same thing …define yourself.
By contrast, you overhear your best friend saying "nasty" things behind your back. Same deal …just another event and you must define who you will be in relation to this event. Drama? Yep, that is what most of you will choose. Let's all go "Jerry Springer" on them and just let'em have it. If you think this is the right reaction for you as a being then, really folks, quit watching other peoples dramas on TV and duplicating them. It will bring you exactly what "you do not want".
There is nothing particularly wrong with loosing yourself in anger. But if your desire in life is to be at peace then you have seriously missed the mark. Just look at who you are being? Your friend tee'd up the event and you alone chose to create the drama. At some level you must really want this or why else would you choose it for yourself. You might say "Well I didn't cause it!" or "They deserved it" …okay, so what! You can always find reasons to justify you "be-ing" so nasty back.…so point and excuses accepted. But your list makes no difference ….you were still being who your were being. Look at you! ‘Cause it is you! You creating the drama for yourself. Get it?
Yes indeed, it is that simple. Recognize that you alone choose the drama for yourself. If you don't like what this choice brings you back then simply try a different choice. If something catches you off-guard so to speak, and you are at a state of peace when it arrives …hang on to your peace! Why would you ever swap it for someone else's anger? Let them keep it. It isn't yours until you choose it...too.
The contrast
Now you might be thinking "Okay, if not this reaction then what?" or "I don't want to look like a coward and pushover." Again, no problem. You make a simple deal.
You are taking your peace and swapping it for the drama. You don't actually have to make this deal with yourself. Believe it or not you have many other options. Let's look closely. You are at peace one minute and then "bam" you are angry. Come on, did someone else make the choice to be angry? Nope.
Here is actually the trade you made.
Some angry logic
In swapping your peace for their anger you have used your free will to "be" angry so likewise, you will do what being angry does. You just threw angry out to your world so don't be at all surprised what angry fetches you back! I can hear some of you say; "Hey they started it!" Uh Huh…and then you joined them, which is, by the way, exactly what they wanted. How nice of your ego to accommodate!
So under this logic who is in charge? Your ego? Is that all there is to you? If so, who is listening? If your ego is talking then who is hearing it? Hmmm, must be more to you than you thought.
The ego is saying; "Hey lets trade in your peace for some drama!" You don't have to listen to the ego. You can simply take this in advisement as only one of your options. That is all it is. The rest of the option list is endless and can be served up in both positive and negative fashion. Just for reference, angry is on the negative side of things.
Now let's peel back the onion on you and what affect this is having inside your physical being. Every emotion has a unique protein that causes a secretion into every cell in your body to change you chemically. This is now you. Something non-physical made a choice to be angry and the body then accommodated that choice. This "something" was you my friend! This is the non-physical you changing your physical state of being on this earth. This is not an arguable point. Science can detect and measure this happening as you choose different emotional states of being here. We know this.
Well let's think about this for a minute. Have you ever known some very angry people in your life? You know, the ones that seem to be angry about everything. I have and I discovered two common denominators. First, they all attract drama into their lives and they love to talk about them to keep'em alive. Second, they all suffer from this disease or that and catch every virus that comes through town. They are sick. I wonder why? Could it be that the body isn't at peace? Who made that happen? Hmmm, starting to see the picture here? You are the one in charge!
If there was ever a sacred ground then your chosen state of being is it! Treat it that way. This is the only decision you alone control...nobody else! Pretty dang powerful aren't you? Indeed, yes you are! The next time you are faced with circumstances where anger is the habitual demeanor of choice....try kindness and watch what happens to you!
» left by Avis Ward(10,234) Avis Ward (136 days 14 hours ago.)
James, I think it was in The Sky is the Limit that Wayne Dyer spoke about this very subject. We have a choice of how we want to "be" in any circumstance. He used receiving a fresh-cut long stem rose from a rose gardener as an example. The rose is given to me and I am pricked by the thorns as I receive it. I can choose to be happy about receiving a thoughtful gesture or angry because he knew the thorns would prick me and that was his motive. It's our choice how we choose to preserve our happiness. I enjoy your writing. Thank you for sharing this truth. Personally, I work on this daily. I enjoy a life of peace, joy and happiness. The alternative isn't life, it's chaos! Respond to this comment
» left by James Taylor(968) James Taylor (135 days 6 hours ago.)
Avis, young lady...you got it! Congratulations! I hope you become fully infected with your joy ...because it is contagious! Best wishes -James T.
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