In this day and age, it is easy for couples to find themselves feeling more separate than together. Life is busy, filled with a long list of things-to-do. Couples have a hard time finding time together and when they do, it is usually after a long day when they are both tired. Sometimes, a couple’s sexual spark begins to dim.
Most couples wait, on average, six years before seeking marriage counseling, according to research conducted by John Gottman. Needless to say, the longer a couple is in distress, the longer it can take to help get a couple back into to a healthy relationship. Unfortunately, sometimes couples wait too long, and the relationship ends in divorce. If you’re having problems in your marriage, don’t wait to get help from a qualified professional.
Here are some signs that your relationship could be in distress:
1. One of you leaves the house after a fight fairly often
2. You discuss or think about divorce occasionally
3. You don’t confide in your partner very often
4. You rarely laugh or have a good time together
One way of working with couples that has quite a lot of research showing its effectiveness is Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy (EFT). EFT sees the connection between partners, the emotional bond, as holding a place of primary importance. This model is based on the idea that the sense of feeling safe, and secure, and knowing that the other person is there for you, is a human need. EFT has found that couples can solve life’s problems more easily when each person in the couple knows that they can count on the other.
If you think your relationship might be in distress, run, don’t walk, to a psychotherapist who provides marriage counseling. You are worth the investment in helping you gain tools to have a close, intimate and satisfying relationship.
I have years of experience dealing with just these kinds of issues. Contact
me at www.bethlevinecounseling.com for more information. |
