If you ask most people what the term soul mate means they would most likely reply that soul mates are two people who are destined to be together. Certainly popular movies and fiction perpetuates this view.
This definition would suggest that there is only one person in the whole world that we are supposed to be joined to. Since it is a really big world this fact could depress some romantics out there since it would be unlikely that most of us would ever find this one specific person.
I used to believe in this myth but over time, as I grow older and a bit wiser, I have found this portrayal to be foolish and I believe false.
Soul mates do not find each other. Two people BECOME soul mates. This process takes time and requires a lot of sunshine and a little rain.
Only after many years can we confidently say that we are with our soul mate. I believe that souls are dynamic forces and that some do attract others and conversely some repel others. Our soul is at the core of our being and our thoughts. When one thinks about another, and does so for another over and over again I am certain that our souls become familiar. Perhaps they even become dependent upon each other so that when one leaves the other feels lost and disoriented.
Two souls mix and join together just like the tears on your cheek mix with your mates as you hold each other and comfort each other through a difficult time.
Soul mates do not live life perfectly together. Sometimes you may even be so aggravated that you think about leaving them. Instead, you stay because the thought of being without them is even more painful.
Eventually two people who truly love one another come to the realization that it is impossible to win a battle if the other person gets hurt.
You must be able to forgive and realize that making someone pay over and over for some mistake is fruitless and only serves your own selfish needs. There is no joy in seeing the other person suffer but there is happiness in seeing the other person prosper and grow.
Soul mates spend a life time cuddling, holding hands and saying I love you. Our souls pay attention to what our bodies are doing, what our mouths are saying and what our brain is thinking.
If you are lucky you and your soul mate will spend many days laughing at your children's antics and only a few days will be spent going to the doctor and feeding them chicken soup.
When you have been sick for three days, have not showered, have greasy hair, and morning breath your soul mate will bring you a cold rag for your forehead, lotion to rub your feet, and will give you a hug that will take your breath away.
Soul mates cherish the good times but more importantly endure the bad times.
When you are young, your soul mate will fill your life with many fond memories while you are eating macaroni & cheese and frozen pizzas. These memories can be called upon when you have finally made it and can afford to sit down and eat prime rib and drink a nice glass of wine.
Concerning the idea that there is only one soul mate for each person. This fact can never be confirmed or denied because once you have a person like this in your life why in the hell would you go looking for another.
I would like to dedicate this to my truly wonderful wife Lindsay from who I have learned so much and to whom I would love to give everything that I possibly can. I can not wait until we can eat prime rib. I truly owe her my life.
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