Our God loves relationship. He created man and woman and wanted them to be as intimate as possible. Thats why He created marriage. We all know that marriage unites a man and a woman and sex improves it. So He created sex for them. He had planned it so beautifully and uniquely and much before they were created. He created sex because it helps them to be UNIQUE. It helps them to be ONE. It helps them to be INSEPARABLE. Yes! Of course it is true that our mind and soul are first priorities in any relationship and they are more important aspects than sex but it does improve a marital bond. Sex is a wonderful gift of God for the married couples.
But todays world thinks differently. Many are engaged in premarital sex. An author says, For many teenagers today, sex is a means of communication, a new experience, an index of maturity, a source of peer approval and a challenge to restrictive parents or society, and an escape from loneliness or other pressures of life."
They need to know that Sex is a powerful force & to be used properly; that is within the boundary of marriage. If it is not used properly, people indulge in it have to pay a heavy cost. You may ask what cost? I would love to explain that as follows:
Costs of Pre-marital SexPremarital sex puts and adverse effect on the person engaged, as well as it affects few other aspects of life that are directly associated to that person.
Adverse effects on the person:Mind:Sexual activity arrests the minds of the young people or any adult. They become deprived psychologically. Their social and academic development gets affected terribly. Their academic performances and performances in their work places decreases. Premarital sex is unsatisfactory, especially for girls as its not secure.
As we know sex unites a man and a woman and when each time a person gets involved in varied sexual encounters and moves out of it that affects his / her mental faculty a lot. These encounters are like small marriages and divorces. And this affects his / her family life when he / she actually gets married and live with a different person. The sexual memories will haunt the person day and night, years after years. Premarital sex leaves a scar, which torments that person throughout his / her life.
Body:The youth or any adult involved in premarital sex may contract one of the many venereal diseases rampant today. They can also contract the deadliest disease like AIDS, because condoms don't give 100% protection. In the later stage or after marriage they can become Infertile because of sexually transmitted diseases.
Young girls or single adults may suffer from unwanted pregnancies, abortions, miscarriages etc.
Soul:Premarital sex is a sin. When people go against the nature or God they cannot live in peace. Some people live in severe guilt because of sexual compulsion. Neither they can disclose it nor they can leave the habit. Sometimes they feel degraded morally also. Sometimes they feel very lonely. Many people commit suicide for the guilt of sexual sins.
Adverse effects on the other aspects of life:Society:Society doesn't allow these things. When somebody is exposed he or she is shunned and put to shame in the society. Rest of the people in the society stop talking and mingling with the persons family who is exposed of premarital sexual encounter. The story of person exposed encourages other singles or young people to get involve in premarital sex, which is really a bad sign for the society.
Family:The youth or the single adult involved in premarital sex can bring shame to themselves as well as to their families. The parents and other relatives of that person feel ashamed to show their faces before outsiders.
Children born:The children that are born outside marriage can have terrible psychological problems, because of single parents. They may have to face taunting words in schools, colleges and even in work places.
My dear young and single adult friends! The costs of premarital sex are very heavy and painful. So do not engage yourself in premarital sex, for which you may have to pay a very high and costly price later. WAIT is the key word for you. Wait till you are married. Enjoy the wonderful gift of sex after marriage. May God bless you.
