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The Costs Of Premarital Sex

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Our God loves relationship. He created man and woman and wanted them to be as intimate as possible. Thats why He created marriage. We all know that marriage unites a man and a woman and sex improves it. So He created sex for them. He had planned it so beautifully and uniquely and much before they were created. He created sex because it helps them to be UNIQUE. It helps them to be ONE. It helps them to be INSEPARABLE. Yes! Of course it is true that our mind and soul are first priorities in any relationship and they are more important aspects than sex but it does improve a marital bond. Sex is a wonderful gift of God for the married couples.

But todays world thinks differently. Many are engaged in premarital sex. An author says, For many teenagers today, sex is a means of communication, a new experience, an index of maturity, a source of peer approval and a challenge to restrictive parents or society, and an escape from loneliness or other pressures of life."

They need to know that Sex is a powerful force & to be used properly; that is within the boundary of marriage. If it is not used properly, people indulge in it have to pay a heavy cost. You may ask what cost? I would love to explain that as follows:

Costs of Pre-marital Sex
Premarital sex puts and adverse effect on the person engaged, as well as it affects few other aspects of life that are directly associated to that person.

Adverse effects on the person:

Mind:
Sexual activity arrests the minds of the young people or any adult. They become deprived psychologically. Their social and academic development gets affected terribly. Their academic performances and performances in their work places decreases. Premarital sex is unsatisfactory, especially for girls as its not secure.

As we know sex unites a man and a woman and when each time a person gets involved in varied sexual encounters and moves out of it that affects his / her mental faculty a lot. These encounters are like small marriages and divorces. And this affects his / her family life when he / she actually gets married and live with a different person. The sexual memories will haunt the person day and night, years after years. Premarital sex leaves a scar, which torments that person throughout his / her life.

Body:
The youth or any adult involved in premarital sex may contract one of the many venereal diseases rampant today. They can also contract the deadliest disease like AIDS, because condoms dont give 100% protection. In the later stage or after marriage they can become Infertile because of sexually transmitted diseases.

Young girls or single adults may suffer from unwanted pregnancies, abortions, miscarriages etc.

Soul:
Premarital sex is a sin. When people go against the nature or God they cannot live in peace. Some people live in severe guilt because of sexual compulsion. Neither they can disclose it nor they can leave the habit. Sometimes they feel degraded morally also. Sometimes they feel very lonely. Many people commit suicide for the guilt of sexual sins.

Adverse effects on the other aspects of life:

Society:
Society doesnt allow these things. When somebody is exposed he or she is shunned and put to shame in the society. Rest of the people in the society stop talking and mingling with the persons family who is exposed of premarital sexual encounter. The story of person exposed encourages other singles or young people to get involve in premarital sex, which is really a bad sign for the society.

Family:
The youth or the single adult involved in premarital sex can bring shame to themselves as well as to their families. The parents and other relatives of that person feel ashamed to show their faces before outsiders.

Children born:
The children that are born outside marriage can have terrible psychological problems, because of single parents. They may have to face taunting words in schools, colleges and even in work places.

My dear young and single adult friends! The costs of premarital sex are very heavy and painful. So do not engage yourself in premarital sex, for which you may have to pay a very high and costly price later. WAIT is the key word for you. Wait till you are married. Enjoy the wonderful gift of sex after marriage. May God bless you.
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» left by Michelle Mackin (4,004)
Michelle Mackin
(102 days 2 hours ago.)

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Great article TC! I think you may have been reading my mind as I was going to write an article on the difference between having sex and making love. I would like to invite you to my fan club. I have already joined yours. Hugs and blessings to you and your family.

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» left by The Candles (509)
The Candles
(100 days 6 hours ago.)

Thanks Michelle! I've joined your fan club already. We always think in the same topics because we few are burdened for things like, family, marriage, children, teenagers, morality etc. Blessings to you and to your family too.

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» left by Sandra E. Graham (2,280)
Sandra E. Graham
(101 days 21 hours ago.)

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Wonderful article, TC. It is all too true. Our teenagers are becoming more and more involved in relationships that they cannot control. I think a lot of it has to do with religion being taken out of the schools and many parents don't know how to address sexual issues with their teenager leaving them to try to figure it all out on their own or from peer groups.
 
Sandra

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» left by The Candles (509)
The Candles
(100 days 6 hours ago.)

Thanks Sandra! The major problems are in families. If the family members do not have close relationships the children tend to rely on peers. My family members are so close to each other we rarely think of our peers and their suggestion. Its necessary for the parents to give enough time to their children and be friends with them and discuss everything with them. Bless and hugs to you...

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» left by Susan Thom (9,014)
Susan Thom
(100 days 14 hours ago.)

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hi tc,
 
everything you say is true, only the kids don't want to listen, as some of us didn't, to our parents. they believe they are invincible and they can do what they want. maybe some teens will read this and get the idea. thanks for writing it,
 
best regards,
 
sue thom

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» left by The Candles (509)
The Candles
(100 days 6 hours ago.)

Thanks Sue! Parents are responsible for everything. We can not blame the children. May God Bless you...

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» left by Robert Melaccio, Sr. (6,499)
Robert Melaccio, Sr.
(99 days 22 hours ago.)

Reader Rating: 4 out of 5
An excellent article lost in a society that teaches all of the opposites. As an ex youth minister I saw the temptations for those who fought the good fight, leaving them on the outside looking in until finally they surrendered to what evryone else was doing. Yes for acceptance. Yes far and few between who hold convictions and stay with them. In fact if you do not conform you will always be looking from the outside in and not the reverse. It is just the way it is. yet an excellent lesson that needs to be taught.

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» left by The Candles (509)
The Candles
(99 days 14 hours ago.)

Thanks Robert! You are right!But Society will change if the individuals and parents take care of their families properly and change their life style for their children and society.

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» left by Teresa Ortiz (4,776)
Teresa Ortiz
(99 days 20 hours ago.)

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Hi Candles, very well put and a great biblical layout. Your stated well, "little marriages and divorces" God says ecerytime you engage in sexual intimacy you become one with that person. It is a spiritual thing whether the person is a believer or not. When they move on, they have left a part of themselves they can never get back.
 
One other thing you mentioned was society. Unfortunately, in the US, society has made if acceptable, in fact it is encouraged. Even to live together before marriage. The hearts of men are growing cold toward the things of God just as He told us would happen. The sad part is people do not realize that many of the problems they face are a direct result of sin.
 
Thank you for taking on a tough subject. God bless you and may your candle continue to burn brightly in a dark world.

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» left by The Candles (509)
The Candles
(99 days 14 hours ago.)

Thanks Teresa! It is really difficult today to control people. Everybody wants to live according to their free will. Children don't want Parents' control. But Parents need to give time for them. Thats most important in today's world. God Bless you...

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» left by Sulagna Dasgupta (364)
Sulagna Dasgupta
(99 days 11 hours ago.)

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Excellent article, Candles, as usual! And like the others have said, what you've said is absolutely true. In our society too, such behaviour is becoming more prevalent and more acceptable by the day.

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» left by The Candles (509)
The Candles
(99 days 9 hours ago.)

Thanks for your comment. Kolkata was quite conservtive in this regard but now a days, it has crossed all other cities also. I don't know how to bring an awareness, and Godly values...

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» left by Anonymous (99 days 9 hours ago.)
Reader Rating: 5 out of 5
Very good article. Very much true in regards to Indian context...Keep it up

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» left by Khristina from Mumbai (99 days 9 hours ago.)
Reader Rating: 4 out of 5
Thanks for the thoughts ... for youth who live alone in different cities, away from parents and away from any kind of restrictions, this has become extremely rampant ... and is so common now that it has become a common norm. Amazing how the devil can work! We need to pray for the youth of our nation and around the world, so that they can HOLD STEADFAST to what the word of God has to say about premarital sex.

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» left by Rob Forbes (0) (98 days 4 hours ago.)
Reader Rating: 3 out of 5
A well laid out article, although I think the underlying assumptions of the basic idea are somewhat culturally based. For example, in the USA, society not only allows pre-marital sex but approves of it. There are possibly larger issues that can be explored here.

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» left by The Candles (509)
The Candles
(97 days 13 hours ago.)

Actually I am an Indian and the article is in the Indian context. US the culture is completely different. You can write the similar article in US context. Thanks for the comment.

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» left by Anonymous (96 days 7 hours ago.)
Reader Rating: 5 out of 5
Great article and very much appropriate to Indian context...keep it up.

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» left by Marilyn Roberts (0) (95 days 9 hours ago.)
Reader Rating: 4 out of 5
This is a subject that is taken for granted in this day and age. It is good to be reminded of the consequences and life altering facets.

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» left by The Candles (509)
The Candles
(95 days 7 hours ago.)

Thanks for the comment Merilyn! Why there are no articles posted by you as yet?

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» left by Anonymous (95 days 5 hours ago.)
I'm just getting started here, but I will be submitting articles.  A lot of them will be on my profession which is medical transcription. 
 
I do love to read other's articles.  I will look forward to reading more of yours.
 
Have a great day,
 
Marilyn Roberts

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» left by Creative Blogger (8,040)
Creative Blogger
(95 days 4 hours ago.)

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Hi Candles,
 
I respect your view and you speak wisely and while I am anti underage sex and condoms in schools and many other things, premarital sex is not one of them.
 
The worst mistake any young person can make is getting married just so they can have sex and yes that happens!
 
Love will bring a greater appreciation of intimacy, but sometimes people are just so incompatible in this area that eventually that is the source of discontent and they may either look outside the relationship for fulfillment or end it altogether.
 
I think informed safe sex (at the right age and with the right information and with protection) is acceptable before marriage for these reasons.

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» left by The Candles (509)
The Candles
(94 days 7 hours ago.)

Thanks for the comments CB. But I don't agree with sex before marriage at all. It is against the nature's as well as God's law. Can we challenge God? I am sorry, I cannot go beyond God's standard.

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» left by creativeblogger (94 days 3 hours ago.)
God did not invent marriage, man did. In the days of old, men 'married' girls as young as 9. Is this right? Just because religious texts make it so? I don't think so.
I understand your beliefs and respect them, but understand people's beliefs differ when it comes to God. I do not agree marriage is God's law. Thus no challenge is taking place.

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» left by The Candles (509)
The Candles
(92 days 8 hours ago.)

God Created & Instituted both Marriage & Family in a Holy and sanctified manner & purpose. Marriage laws are laid by God Himself from the very beginning. Man created communes, wife swapping, Live in relationship, Cohabitation for unholy pleasures and selfishness etc. The Bible says, you cannot be yoked with unequal belief and standards which is true both in spiritual and general cases. So an adult marrying a kid is not right.

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» left by Creative Blogger (8,040)
Creative Blogger
(86 days 6 hours ago.)

What proof do you have God created marriage?

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» left by The Candles (509)
The Candles
(86 days 5 hours ago.)

The God inspired word that is the Bible says that...

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» left by creativeblogger (86 days 5 hours ago.)
I understand many people belief this to be the case but at the end of the day they believe this because they were told to believe it and for no other reason that that.

I believe in God, but I do not believe he invented marriage or dictated the Bible.

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