Is having sex in your teens right or wrong. Well this is certainly a question open for debate. Personal opinions will differ greatly as to what is deemed ideally right. It is a catch 22 situation where you have them who okay teen sex, as opposed to those who feel the need to bring back the chastity belt. At the end of the day, and in this day, most parents are not brought into the equation if their child decides on having sexual intercourse. We parents if lucky enough to have our child confide in us need to step back and guide them. This remark may sound as if I encourage teen sex, how far from the truth that is. If your child comes to ask for advice and you know deep down regardless of what you say they will go ahead, is it not better to work alongside them rather than against. Making the decision to step back is more like that of a protection program.
Kids you have to tell your parents of your intentions, and you never know they may come round to the idea and accept, you, are ready for sexual relations. Parents know above anyone else if you are ready or not. At least by telling your parents of your intentions, the advice they give is straight from the horse's mouth so as to speak. Another advantage of having mom/dad on board is no looking over your shoulder and having to be deceitful. Be up front and tell it like it is, however be prepared for them telling you how it is also, because it`s what protective parents do. Remember protective parents only have your best interest at heart. It makes sense why mom needs to know "now."Find out why at the bottom of the page.
If you think the time is right and you feel ready then your first teen experience should go smoothly, but it won`t if you are uncomfortable at the start and not relaxed. A regular question asked 'will my first teen sex experience hurt" or is "sexual intercourse painful." Pain and hurt cannot be determined into words because each individual sees discomfort differently. If it's any help, if sexual intercourse is painful, then why do people go back for seconds. In saying that on your first teen sex encounter and you a virgin, you may suffer minor discomfort when the hymen is broken.
The hymen is a piece of tissue that, during development, blocks some or all of the entrance to the vagina. Not all women have the same type of hymen i.e. the entrance to the vagina is mostly, or completely, unhindered; in others, a condition called imperforate hymen can block the whole entrance. If a woman's hymen has not broken prior through other activities and is still intact then it usually stretches during penis penetration, and it may or may not hurt. Sometimes tearing and/or bleeding can happen, but that has to do with the flexibility of the tissue. Remember this may not affect you because each woman's body is different.
Teen sex is more of an enjoyable experience if you go about the coupling engagement sensibly. Wear a condom to protect against catching an STD or falling pregnant. The initial build up to having sex is the most important part (please or be pleased.) If sex is bad it can cause many upsets. There is no need for bad sex to happen if preparation of you, location and partner is carefully planned. Are there ways to avoid pain in sexual intercourse? Depending on your body there is no definite answer, however a few little helpers can make it more pleasurable than discomforting. Sex is more meaningful if your partner is one of long standing. Many partners will have people disrespect you, as well as jeopardizing your health.
For your first time teen sex experience, you must be absolutely sure you can trust your lover. You must be able to communicate. If while having sex and you feel uncomfortable with the sexual act initiated then tell them so. If the position your in is causing cramp speak out. This gives both parties the option to get what they like. Some people are afraid to talk during sex, sad because it is important! It's like trying to find your way round town, and if no directions you are not reaching your destination.
Condoms have a sell by date so be sure to check this. When opening packaging be careful not to tear the condom. Condoms usually roll on the penis one way. Have the reservoir tip facing away from the penis before you put it on the end of the penis. If you are uncircumcised, pull back your foreskin before rolling the condom on. You can have your partner roll the condom over the tip of your penis.
You should be able to see or feel the tip, and that there is space for the semen to gather. If you sense something is not right do not leave anything to chance. Remove and start again till you get it right.
Squeeze air out of the tip it reduces chances of the condom splitting. Many hands make light work. In one hand hold the condom at the head of the penis. With the other unroll all the way to the base of the penis and down to the shaft. After ejaculation remove the condom slowly and carefully.
Be honest with your doctor if you want to go on the pill. Some girls tell porkies about heavy periods. Not only is it not safe to tell lies to your doctor - it is completely unnecessary. What you have to say to your GP is private and kept that way. In the UK, approximately one in three of all sexually active women takes the pill. The contraceptive pill contains two hormones that are very similar to those that your own body produces. They're called: Oestrogen and Progestogen, both hormones prevent pregnancy by stopping the ovaries from releasing an egg (ovulating.) Side effects from taking the pill can include headaches breast tenderness, sickness, even slight weight gain. It has been claimed that the pill is associated with increasing the risk of breast and cancer of the cervix. True statements regarding pill concerns should come from your GP or a member of the Family Planning Clinic.
Unlike the condom (rubber sheath) the contraceptive pill does not protect against sexually transmitted diseases. If you find yourself in a pickle
FPA UK: 0207 837 4044
FPA Cymru: 0845 600 1213
FPA N.Ireland: 028 90 325 488 or (Derry) 028 71 260 016
FPA Scotland: 0141 576 5088
I bet any teen that mom will love to hear all about what you get up too and agree with you going on the pill - rather than hearing you didn`t, and come home pregnant or with an appointment card for an STD clinic.
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