Love comes from within, the very core of who we are, from what we want
and what we desire.
We all have
questioned at one time or another in our lives the real meaning of love and
what it represents in the world around us.
We look towards others to try and find answers that define truth of love
through giving and taking, sacrifice and all the things people consider love to
entail. There are even times when we
think we are considering another in love which instead leads to displaying the
opposite to what the person is wanting, only making evident the real fact that
we do not truly know love and what it really means to understand it at the core
of what it is.
We dream up
scenarios of love making with people we want to get close to, we define that it
is the feeling that makes us want to bust inside of our chest with laughter and
happiness. Love then could be defined on
all the moments that we feel happy and satisfied in our lives with the people
we have around us and the things that we are doing. Love then is defined on moments of ‘self'
happiness, and this is the truth of the real core of what love is, starting
within ourselves.
Love is
defined on the inside of each individual in a separate way. It can hold to many forms of understanding
that the person personally wishes and desires towards. It could be the small kisses that a person
gives and the feeling one gets in knowing that that person has only eyes for
them alone. It could be the knowing that
a person is helping another and the satisfaction they receive within themselves
for what they have done. They might see
this as love, the level of compassion that is derived on giving and not
wanting.
The thing
that is never ventured into much is the real core of love, where it comes and
how it truly develops. When we seek love
outside of ourselves we try to understand it on the terms of other people and
what they seek themselves to satisfy their own needs and desires. Where true love presides is deep in the core
of our own very nature. When we seek to
define ourselves outside of these parameters all sorts of issues can arise such
as, jealousy, discontent and resentment, defined on our expectation that we
have on others and what they should be giving to us in return. The question always then comes to a balancing
point, asking where does true love come from, and whether it is ok to love
ourselves. To love ones self then would
be seen as inconsiderate and unjustifiable, only leading to wondering whether
this is why a person is not loved by others because of their own selfishness.
Someone in
our society defined on such logic as loving themselves is seen as egotistic and
unrealistic, only ever focusing on the foundation of what they can themselves get
in life and singularly achieve. What if
this egotism and self satisfaction were to be seen in a totally different way
and was instead defined on the truth of love rather than on a justification of
love seen from righteousness. Showing
that it is ok to love ones self for the very nature of what they want, giving
true value to who they are and what they have to offer as a whole.
Imagine
this scenario, that you are viewing a moment when you are giving love outside
of yourself, leading to the event that you sacrifice even your last dollar to
give it to a friend that only turns to you and says that what you give is not enough. What if you were to redefine this scenario
instead to give love from the core of yourself, deciding that the only time
that you are to give is when you know that you will not yourself suffer from
the cause of the events taking place?
How would this then redefine the situation?
If you show
to your friend that you cannot give this money because it is your last dollar,
if she truly valued your friendship, on a deeper level she would
understand. When you take love back to
base you show your friend that you define yourself also on love and
consideration, which also allows your friend to do the same for her own
reasoning. When a person can define
themselves on love from within they then know that what they give is really out
of what they truly feel and desire to do.
How can we
define love for another if we cannot even define the meaning within ourselves,
showing others what real love is and how it can be achieved. If a person were to show their life on value
of themselves most often they would not proceed to give to another without the
full awareness of the circumstances of what they
have the ability to offer, this then does not pressure the other person to feel
guilt, shame, resentment or fears.
Love should
not be focused on in guilt or shame, or defined by pressures of expectation. Instead it should be defined within each
individual separately based on the ability to love ones self. When we show that we can truly love ourselves
for who we are and what we can give without feeling guilt, then we show others
the definition of how to find satisfaction in life, and the personal awareness that love comes from within from
the strength that we have individually to define ourselves.
If you
cannot love yourself it will be harder for another to see this love also within
you, they will look to all the things that you find as faults within yourself
and wonder at whether you also see this within their body, personality, lifestyle
or choices. They will question your
ability to truly love from the core and understand what it is to love
unconditionally without the need to have reasoning within giving and taking, or
guilt based psychological events taking place.
Love comes
from the core of ourselves and is felt from within, when we are happy, when we
are satisfied and most importantly, when we are confident in all that we achieve
and desire. The true love can only be
felt within individually, and defines what love really means to us in value. It is ok to love ourselves, and in turn show
others how it is to feel love for what it really signifies. The truth is that when we give to ourselves
we also give to others, taking the pressure off them of expectation, allowing
them to define their own space of love and creativity. We then no longer need barriers of
expectation but instead what is given is truly what we desire and want in
return.
It is ok to
love ones self, and in turn show others what love really is and how we wish to
give and receive it.
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