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Surefire tips to help make your first date with a special lady a successful experience for you both.
Tip 1 Open doors for your date. Whether it's to your car or to the restaurant, open the door for her. She will see this as a chivalrous sign of respect. If she's getting out of a car, offer her your hand to help her. If she says thank you, don't respond with, "no problem." Say, "My pleasure" or "You're welcome."
Tip 2 Have the date planned before you go pick her up. This way you won't show any signs of disorder and it also shows responsibility. It's a proven fact you will score better on a test if you plan ahead and study, why not do the same for a date. Planning ahead will help the date run smoothly.
Tip 3 Pay for the date. She might see you picking up the check and say, "Wait, let me help you with that." Let her know that it has been an extreme pleasure to have her accompany you for the evening and that it's not a problem. If she insist, than let her add what she wants, letting her know it's not necessary. Keep this exchange very polite and respectful.
Tip 3 Pull her chair out for her. It is the nice, respectful thing to do while at a restaurant. It is the small things like this she will remember, not the movie you take her to.
Tip 4 Movie first, then dinner. This concept provides talking points for your dinner if the conversation slows down. You can talk about the plot line or the actors. Ask her first what she thought about the movie before you go into whether you liked it or not. If you do go to the movie first before dinner, it is your responsibility to see she doesn't get hungry during the movie, so buy snacks if she wants.
Tip 5 Music in the car. Once you pick up your date, it is good to have music playing lightly in the background. Preferably something she will enjoy. Make sure the volume is set before you pick her up and make sure the volume isn't at a spot to where you can't hear what she has to say. Music can act as a buffer during quiet moments in the car. Stay away from loud, profane music.
Tip 6 When she's talking during dinner, nod your head. If she's going into a story of sorts, look into her eyes and nod your head, showing her you're listening. Looking at her blankly will make her feel awkward and keep her from further dialog.
Tip 7 Compliment her. Women like to be told they look nice, so when you pick her up, make sure you let her know. Remind her again during dinner, but don't make a scene out of it. Don't go over board with the complements but a few will do just fine.
Tip 8 Keep the first date simple. Don't go overboard with elaborate candies and chocolates or wild gifts. If you want to give her something, a simple rose will do. Give it to her as you pick her up at her door. Giving wild gifts makes you look desperate, a rose make you look romantic. But if you give a rose, make sure the thorns are cut off.
Tip 9 Meet her house guest. If you arrive at her house to find that her roommates or family members are home, introduce yourself to them and shake their hands. This shows confidence and respect to her friends and family. Small jokes are acceptable but keep the banter to a minimum and smile. Complement the house or anything of that nature. As you exit the house, open the door for your date. Her roommates or family will notice and see that you are a true gentleman.
Tip 10 After the date has finished, walk her to her door. Be respectful and grab her right hand with your left, gently. Let her know you had an amazing time and would like to do this again. Do not invite yourself in nor expect her to. And do not try to kiss her unless she shows you it's ok to do. Most gentlemen will not kiss on the first date, but with the jump into the 21 st century, it has become acceptable only when she says it is. Do not verbally ask for a kiss, that's just plain rude.
Use these tips and your first date will be a complete success.
Ryan Stroud is a military trained journalist who has served in Iraq with the US Army. Prior to his military experiences, Stroud grew up playing, coaching, and refereeing soccer. Also, Stroud focused many years of his life playing, touring, and recording/producing local music acts. He has a wonderful wife of 3 years and a 1 year old son.
Stroud's biggest writing influences are Jim Butcher, Chuck Palahniuk and Ben Fox.
He currently resides in Huntsville, Al, with the 59th Ordnance Brigade at Redstone Arsenal.
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