Any woman can get a man. But the game a woman has to back up her looks will help her keep a man. When a man is first getting to know a woman, he usually puts her into one of two categories:
1. The potential girlfriend category.
2. The potential sex partner category.
Now the requirements for a woman to be placed in the potential girlfriend category vary, depending on a man's particular wants and needs. Before a man places a woman in this category, he looks at her credentials. And the credentials could include a hundred things. A man might take a woman's educational background into consideration. He might consider her culinary skills. He might take her sense of humor, her diet regimen, her sex appeal, or a host of other things into consideration before he puts a woman into the potential girlfriend category.
But it doesn't take much for a man to put a woman into the potential sex partner category. The requirements are minimal.
As a matter of fact, a woman just needs to have two things in order to get placed into the potential sex partner category:
1. A poon-tang
2. A pulse In most cases, when a woman is first dating a man, if she doesn't meet any of his qualifications to become a potential girlfriend or mate, she automatically gets placed in the potential sex partner category.
On the other hand, a woman in most cases actually has to like something about a man before she will have sexual relations with him, and she will require him to have certain credentials before she gets physical with him. So a lot of women end up thinking that just because a man wants to sleep with them, he must see some special qualities in her as well. Which brings us to:
A man does not have to like you to have sex with you.
A very common question that I often hear women ask is, "If a man just wants sex, how come he doesn't just say that in the
4 beginning?" The answer is, most men at least have some common sense. Let's be realistic, ladies. Do you honestly think that a man is going to step to you and say "Hey look, I don't really want a relationship with you, I just want to hit that ass?" If he did, you would dismiss him with the quickness. Men know that, so guys at least have enough common sense to know what to say, and what not to say, to get what they want and not salt their own game.
So ladies, it's up to you to figure out what a man's true agenda is, instead of complaining about what he should tell you, and what he ought to be doing.
In order to do this, you have to break relationships down to their basic components. There are basically three types of relationships:
1. emotional
2. sexual
3. financial That's it. There are relationships for emotional gratification, sexual gratification, and financial gratification.
If you are in a relationship with a person, it will be for at least one of these three reasons. The problems come when the two parties have different relationship agendas. A woman may be dating a man because he is paying her bills, and he may be dating her strictly for the sex. Or a woman might be dating a guy whom she's emotionally attached to, while he is dating her because she gives him a couple of dollars every now and then.
In the ideal relationship the two people dating are on the same page emotionally, sexually, and financially. If there is a deficiency in any one of these areas, and the deficiency has not been rectified, the relationship will be temporary. So ladies,
5. When you start dating a man, you must first be real (with yourself especially) about what your true agenda is. If you are dating a man strictly because of his financial contributions, acknowledge that to yourself. Don't try to justify your agenda by getting into a BS relationship with the person and deceiving yourself into believing that you can learn to like other qualities about the person.
You must also figure out what the other person's true agenda is. Don't leave it up to them to tell you. In any game, you have to at least play good defense until you are absolutely sure that the other person is willing to be on the same team as you.
When you first meet a person, you can't tell if they are with you or against you. And if someone has plans to get over on you, or to get what they can from you without reciprocating, they damn sure aren't going to tell you this up front.
Over 90 percent of all communication is nonverbal. So it's up to you to look and listen very closely to a person's nonverbal language (and not your own hopes and expectations) so you can figure out where they are coming from.
Tariq Nasheed is a best selling author who has written three successful books:The Art Of Mackin, which has sold over 250,000 copies, his follow up book Play Or Be Played (Simon & Schuster) was catered towards women trying to learn "the game," and in 2005, he released another book for men called The Mack Within (Penguin).Nasheed is also the host of the critically acclaimed Mack Lessons Radio Show (http://macklessonsradio.com). He also has a message board to help men and women in relationships, at http://unitedplayersofamerica.com. Tariq will be kicking off his lecture tour this Fall called "Get Your Game Right"(http://getyourgamerighttour.com).
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