The number of people who come forward and ask the question, 'Am I gay?' is unbelievable. This happens when a person falls into a state of confusion over their sexuality, however it is always cleared up when that person takes into account different issues that gave reason to question their behavior over them being gay or not. Confusion is tossed aside when all falls into place for why you feel, or act towards those of the same gender. In today`s society openness about homosexuality and lesbianism is now near an everyday topic, so nothing new. In reply to 'Am I gay?' is difficult to answer since we now appreciate a wide spectrum of sexual orientation i.e. folks being exclusively gay, being wholly heterosexual or falling somewhere in between.
Public attitudes in the past have had gays and lesbians hide behind their fear of coming forward and being open. It`s funny how straight men, if you like, love to watch women frolic together, only to throw their guts up if two men did the same. Everyone`s entitled to their own opinion on homosexuality and lesbianism, but some are not of a nice nature, however because we individuals differ, hence makes differences of opinions.
Young people now view that it is reasonably acceptable for females to go through a phase of fancying pretty women. The term 'lipstick lesbian' is used to describe someone who gladly flirts with other females.
Some parents said they saw the signs from an early age that their child was gay. Some homosexual men also said they knew they were gay round the time of puberty. While finding yourself you will meet many who are undoubtedly heterosexual, and those - vehemently anti-gay. Steer clear of these people till your rooted and know what`s what, as acceptance of whom and what you are will never be warmly welcomed.
It is not always simple to spot a gay. Yeah there are those signs that normally give us a clue, but if others behave differently and show not the signs of which we are accustomed, then there is no way of telling, unless gay or lesbian is tattooed on their forehead. If a fella comes across as effeminate it does not mean he is gay. Like it`s hard to accept a butch macho male with a gruff voice is homosexual. People are quick in making assumptions e.g. music, activities or career can have the onlooker see gay signals. Assumptions can land you in deep trouble. Because I love the film the Godfather does not make me a member of the mafia.
Sexuality is a very complex thing, and science still works today on the mechanics for better understanding.
"Do I have a homosexual orientation" the only way to determine that is to wait and time will tell. Remember, orientation is the general direction of attraction over time. Masturbation is useful for determining sexual orientation. Usually gay people fantasize about their own sex whereas heterosexuals do not.
You are best asking yourself if you are thinking "Am I gay?" Remember, feelings do not determine who you are. Feelings come from within, and trying to blank them out is useless. Once finalization comes to the fore and you accept you are gay then a feeling of contentment will come in to affect.
Physical contact with boys in your youth does not mean that you are gay. It has also been ruled out that if you were abused or raped as a youngster- is not reason for turning gay. Unfortunately some abused are convinced they`re homosexual because they believe their attacker senses homosexuality, therefore the reason why chosen for the assault. You should not be embarrassed to come forward and seek counseling, whether you are man or woman. Survivors UK on 0845 1221201
Young men, who find themselves attracted to another bloke, can deeply concern themselves over this being a sign of being homosexual - though not necessarily so. If you are sure you are batting for the other side, never jump in at the deep end and force yourself upon another, who may just be straight. You need to assess whether the guy could possibly return your feelings. Don`t be swayed, just because he chats up girls is not proof enough to say he isn't gay (bent.) Common terms for describing a gay, is queer and suspects. Never approach a male friend sexually, unless encouraging signs are given.
If you have a crush on your friend, it is best kept under wraps till the time is right. You may embarrass them or put the fear of god up them where they leg it faster than Linford Christie. .
Who should you discuss your possible gay feelings with? Well you know your own family and friends so this direction of advice should really come from yourself. The most important part of coming clean so as to speak is more on ideal timing. Booze makes idiots of us all so not a good time to disclose you are gay with a slur in your voice.
Let`s face the music and "chance."
Identifying yourself as lesbian or gay and telling folks is often referred to as 'coming out'. Once establishing you`re truly gay, then is the time to reveal. Make sure timing is right, trying to retract what you said, will most certainly set tongues wagging regardless. Your decision to tell others of your sexuality can be one of a delicate situation. Coming out of the closet involves becoming openly lesbian or gay and recognizing that it is a central facet of, 'who I am', and, 'how I want to live my life'.
Your parents are the first people that need to be told about who you are and what you are really about. In fact they are the two most important people you could have at your side. By telling mom and dad you give them the opportunity to share your life.
Homosexuality is not an illness and certainly not a mental disorder that some people assume it to be. Nor can you die from being gay; however, sexually transmitted infections can kill.
Some religions believe homosexuality is sinful and in breach of bible laws. Is homosexuality curable, this is a much considered debatable subject? It has become a politically poignant argument in the US; with Christian support promoting speculation that homosexuality can be changed through strength of willpower, declaring 'thousands are leaving their homosexual identity for celibacy, and marriage'. Resisting the temptation to eat chocolate is a controllable urge ruled by our way of thinking. But if that type of ruling comes from the heart, then it becomes an inner emotion of which you have no jurisdiction and are powerless to prevent loving someone of the same sex.
So changing what the heart desires stays steadfast for the true gay. What is that familiar saying "Follow your heart."
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