In a marriage where alcohol has become the new primary partner and if you have children, they will usually become the most affected by the marriage, more so than you. Why ? They also hear the arguing, fighting and they see the drunkenness. No matter how young they are, they can sense tension, sadness as well as the unhappiness that you are experiencing. They same feeling that you are experiencing, they are experiencing them too. For your children's sake and yours also, your mind needs to be able to stay clear, alert and able to focus on them. Keeping your enthusiasm for other things and on other things will help them stay focused as well.
Sure times are rough and more than likely they will get worse before they get better, if they get better. Sometimes they get tougher than not even you could have imagined it. Whatever you do don't start to settle and don't let them start to settle for the way things are, keep yourself focused and them focused on the way things are going to be regardless of his drinking and possible cruelty. Keep your children cheered up as much as possible, imagine how they MUST be feeling.
Talk to your children and try not to advocate ill feelings or negative thoughts towards him, help them to think positive thoughts of things that are sure to come. Don't let your negativity transfer to them you'll loose track of all the positive things that all of you can accomplish.
Children will suffer from the embarrassment of seeing a staggering drunk, especially in front of their friends or family. They are living in the same household as you and experiencing the same things as you, they simply just may feeling things in a different way. Talking helps, keep them focused on other things, don't let their anger and hurt destroy them.
Melanie Meyers offers tips forChildren Trapped in Your Unhappy Marriage both on her ebook and on her blog at http://www.blog.miserableunhappywives.com
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