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We can all surmise that the toxic waste, handled with careful precision, and extreme safety, obviously must not be good for us. It's not good to breathe in, through our pores, or our noses and can only do us harm. Toxic waste will melt every cell of our being until there is nothing left. It will zap our energy and stamp out our dreams. It can cause a weakened immune system resulting in different ailments, some even claiming cancer as one of it's cohorts. It's not something you want, or need to be near. The pain and suffering involved in the affects of toxic waste can be devastating. By mere definition alone, we'd want to stay away: toxic: poisonous, noxious, deadly, lethal, mortal.
Most of us don't live near a toxic site, nor do we have to worry about being close to it in any way. There are, however, different meanings for the word toxic, as in a toxic relationship. Everything said about a toxic waste sit can be aptly applied to a couple who seem to bring out the worst in each other. We know in our heart that a relationship that is poisoning our mind, body, heart and soul, is not good for us. It will zap our energy and stamp out our dreams. Our constant barrage of arguing and being verbally and maybe physically abused, can definitely cause our immune system to become weakened, and susceptible to many diseases. Depression can set in, and slowly, all faculties will be affected.
If we are in a noxious partnership, we are in a deadly, dangerous, lethal, destructful and harmful situation. Those are the adjectives of toxic from the Thesaurus. Unfortunately, there are still many factors to figure in. Are there children involved, would counseling be an option, and would it help? Would communicating bring about a change? Can learned behavior be unlearned? I know it can, because I've done it, but it was a very long, hard, emotional ride. And I know others who have changed their behavior for the better. There must be a burning desire to do so, however, or old behaviors just come back and life reverts to the old ways.
If there is a burning desire, and a commitment to reconstruct one's personality traits, the mind is a powerful tool in doing so. If we are impatient, the mind, once programmed, will help keep us quiet, when to say what's on our minds could be detrimental. All of a sudden, we may catch our mind talking us through a situation, instead of negatively reacting to that situation. There is power in a strong mind, and it can reverse toxic relationships, or toxic people, but they have to be wanting and willing to relearn life's skills, and change their own behavior. There is too much to enjoy on God's green Earth. Why live in pain when you can live in beauty?
That is the waste part of toxic waste, all the time we spend on arguing and fighting and trying to make others' lives harder. It is a waste. No good can come of it. Do we really enjoy being miserable? Is that why we think we are here on Earth? Or do we want to turn toxic waste into dust, and begin again on the right side of happiness? We each have the right to be respected, until, or if, we ever do something to change that privilege. We deserve to be treated with the same respect everyone else deserves, unless we, too, cross over that line back into toxicity. More and more people are waking up to the idea that one's character can be enhanced, and one's negative character traits can be worked on and changed for the better.
We may not be able to do anything about what goes on in the World, but we can certainly do something to help ourselves, and, therefore, those we hold dear. We can clean up our own toxic waste within, and emerge a happier, calmer, more content human being. We can start with making a list of all that bothers us, and then, figuring out a peaceful solution. Do we really have to hold onto Mary in the 5 th grade tripping us in the hall and making all the other kids laugh? Let it go, it's toxic. Do we have to stay consumed with anger because one or both of our parents didn't pay as much attention to us as we wanted? Let it go, it's toxic. When everything is exposed as toxic, it's time to forgive and forget.
This leaves us lighter, happier, calmer, more energetic, more desirable, and healthier, in mind, body, and soul. We reconnect with our soul, now that every bit of garbage is out of the way, our spirituality becomes strong once again, and we keep God in our minds and talk to Him often. We notice nature more. We appreciate it more than we ever have. My favorite wildflowers are those that grow in odd places. I was walking down the street the other day, and there was a patch of woods, and every so often, there were little bunches of wildflowers lighting up the hill of weeds. I had flowers growing in my cactus plants. There are mushrooms today, that were not there yesterday. It is mind boggling how nature is orchestrated by God to do just what it's supposed to do. Too bad His children weren't as well trained.
We allow ourselves to become toxic through our situations and circumstances in our lives, but there is an alternative. We can come to terms with those situations, and move past them, instead of burying them down deep, and being obnoxious, angry, and cruel because of the fuel that fires our soul. And not even knowing that the reason is our attitude, not the world's. Snap out of it. There are ways to re create your personality. It is your responsibility to yourself, God, and those you love, to work on those toxic areas that are doing you much more harm than good. If life is what you make it, which I believe it is, to a great degree, then what are you waiting for? Make a personal inventory of your character defects, and be aware of them through the day.
If you are quick to anger, and have thought about it, and picked that out as one of you weaker character traits, then practice patience. When you open your mouth to yell about who took the sponge from the bucket, stop yourself, and simply say, "Has anyone seen the sponge?" Is a sponge really something to exert toxic waste over? Is anything really worth it? The sky, clouds, birds, animals, grass, mountains, valleys, waterfalls, oceans, are more beautiful than most of us can explain. Yet, we want to argue over a sponge, or dirty socks left on the family room floor. We may not have a clue what our purpose is on this Earth, but we know there is one, and spreading or accepting toxic waste, doesn't feel like it would be part of God's hopes for His people.
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