So you want to be sexy. It`s not the end of the world if you don`t come across as sexy. Okay it is nice to have some sex appeal, but too much can send out the wrong signals about you. If a woman dresses with the "come on" look, it is not an admission to being a rabid manic in bed. Let us determine the meaning of the word sexy. In saying that, can it be determined. The word comes down to whether a person finds another person sexually appealing. That in essence is what 'sexy' means. Sex is ultimately the root of the word sexy, end of story.
For some bizarre reason the word has been taken out of context in the last half a century and has lost much of its unique meaning as a result. Depending on whom you are and to how you see sexy, then a car or that of a scrumptious cream cake can be referred to as sexy.
Someone can have a sexy voice or a sexy smile or a sexy touch or sexy body smell. Because of many meanings, this gives reason for debatable confusion among different opinionates. Although things can appear sexy, the more common of what we believe to be truer the meaning, is not to "appear" but more like "being" sexy.
Sexy is not the opposite too being ugly, beautiful is. Voluptuous best describes the word.
So you want to be sexy:
More than anything be you, and if sexy is within then it will certainly prevail in situations when it is needed. There is no such thing as an ugly person, and if you believe you are, then start disbelieving in yourself. What you see as ugly may be something you're not happy with, like your nose, shape of lips or bum. These are issues that can be sorted. If want to look sexy then get a grip of yourself and make it happen. Sexy is a state of mind issue. It's a sincere emotion, inviting and friendly, while retaining a touch of mystery. Beauty is within and so should your confidence.
Advice on how to "appear" or should I say "be" sexy
The best way to bring on sexy is to look as natural as possible, like no effort was made. False is not good. The way you dress, and wear makeup, along with other qualities is the key. Sexy surfaces and presents itself in how you market these qualities in public.
Note: A simple coat of scarlet red nail polish on fingernails of sizeable length (not talon size) and reddened lips can stir flirtatious passion in most men. Also perfume is a magnetic seduction puller.
Gone are the days of the little black number (dress). Nonetheless if the curves are there, then think "Audrey Hepburn" as best describing sex appeal. Make changes to color code and dress in light colors such as blush and cream. Sensuous materials such as cashmere and silk speak volumes in a sexy subtle way. Brassy sexiness can appear through wearing leopard print; remember this when wanting to make an impression. Simple and sexy includes "nothing" flimsy or figure hugging. Jeans and a T-shirt if worn with the come and get me gesture, i.e. the way you walk, how tight the glad rags, your stance or if "braless out in the rain" (wet T-shirt.) then sexy is full bore. Skin tight clothing, mini skirt or hot pants, if the shape (figure) is there - then these are certainly head turners.
Colorful jewelry can add to allure as like attitude and charm. Legs not only walk - "but talk the talk." Platform shoes are definitely a no go. Stiletto shoes accentuate shape. Sex symbols like Marylyn Monroe, Doris day and Lauren Bacall never became who they are and labeled what they are because they wore platform shoes. Sex appeal came for them through presentation - how they wiggled their butt and style. Even the plainest frock buttoned up to the neck and covering most of the leg could not prevent their natural sexy demeanor to shine. Remember sexy is not about, wearing less will impress.
Personal hygiene is important. We cannot have you look sexy only to have people shy away on approach. Work with what you've got. If you choose to sculpt your eyebrows or other body parts, get them waxed at a salon. Stubble is trouble.
- Make a trip to the hair salon. A new cut or style will make you feel sexy and confident. Having a change of hair colour will work wonders. Go for natural, nothing too dramatic. It is said that men are attracted to longer hair.
- Do a steam facial once a week for up to 10 minutes, to open up the pores and remove blackheads to leave a sexy complexion.
- Do your own facial steaming. Get a bowl of boiling water and a towel, using the towel as a mini sauna place it over your head, then bend over the bowl. Beware, any longer than suggested time can stress the skin. Bathe face with a cleanser made for your type of skin. Rinse with cold water to close pores.
Show your style.
A good quality pair of hugging jeans is fabulous. Dark denim suits all body types. Jeans are the ultimate sexy accessory and sexier if worn with strappy heels. Strut that butt for the ultimate outlook. Choose clothes that flatter your figure and that you feel comfortable in. More women choose sexy over comfort. Is it not better to have both?
Wear jewelry that excites you and others. A low cut dress burdened with too many trinkets can lose the cleavage. The cleavage is an important factor in the sexy race. Open neck shirts tied at the waist showing a little boob bulge is seen as sexy. If you already wear lots of beads, avoid wearing patterned shirts. Wear a monochromatic top with lots of multi-colored jewelry.
Black is great for hiding flesh fat and covers belly ripples ideally. Sexy lingerie is the icing on the cake. French knickers are more flattering than panties. Try Salsa dancing to help with bum movement, sway of the hips are sexually inviting.
Remember that "sexy" isn't a body shape issue, It's an aura, however it certainly helps to have a healthy body and curvy shape that is much lusted after. Slimming down and toning up can augment sexiness, but it can never replace it. Leave vanity behind! Don't try to make your body beautiful with a false identity where you copy someone, it is better to make your body beautiful as it is. Don't feel the underdog if standing alongside a pretty person. Everyone has something unique about them self. You don't have to look like a particular person to become sexy. Sexy is seen through the eyes of the onlooker.
They say beauty attracts beauty, confidence attracts confidence, and maturity attracts maturity. If you have these qualities then you attract "not" only the type of person you desire, but that desired person into the bargain gets who they desire too.
