Here is something that I've noticed about women. Women are just so much more dramatic than men. I say this not to criticize women, but because it raises a great issue in terms of the differences between the way men speak and the way women speak.
Women will send an email to a guy whom she's dating - or it can even be to a male co-worker - asking a question that makes her feel vulnerable. The guy may not respond right away.
When a guy doesn't respond to her email right away, a woman will start thinking and obsessing about it. She'll wonder "Why hasn't he responded? How come he didn't respond? I don't understand why he didn't respond." Then she might even lob another email to the guy saying "I don't understand why you didn't respond to that last email" or "Why haven't you responded to my email?"
As the woman is going through all this thinking, analysis and sending out of that follow-up email, the truth is that many times the only reason the guy didn't respond to that email is because he was doing something else. It's not he didn't want to respond to the woman's email, it was just that he was busy doing something else.
As a woman, you're very emotional and you react very emotionally to things. What you have to understand is that if we don't respond to you on the very same day, it's not because we're callous and it's not that we are being mean. It's just that we may have been doing something else.
I give the same advice to men. When I give this advice to women, I always tell them to stop getting their panties in a knot and give us men the opportunity to respond to you.
Life is about being patient. Life is not about analyzing every little thing.
You don't want to analyze very little thing until you beat it up. You want to be able to really process things over a period of time, because what things appear like right now are very often not at all what they're really about.
So the next time you send a guy an email and he doesn't respond within the time period you think he should, you need to exercise some patience and not immediately over think and overreact to the situation. Just chill out, relax and allow him the opportunity to send you a response.
So ladies, don't get your panties in a knot … because, really, there can't be too many things more uncomfortable than walking around with panties in a knot. I can only imagine what that would feel like, especially if you're wearing certain kinds of those little g-strings.
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