Power, Confidence & Sex Appeal!

It's almost unnecessary to explain why some people are considered the sexiest people alive. Just look at them! Their sensuous appeal starts visually. Their very smooth and soft skin, perfect proportions, legs that are long and beautifully formed etc.

But what if I told you that only 20% of lasting sex appeal is about physical appearance and 20% about your intelligence. The remaining 60% is all about having a genuine masculine confidence or genuine feminine confidence.

People who have greater sexual appeal mostly have confidence in their masculinity and femininity. They have apparent effortlessness, eyes twinkling with good humour, an infectious smile, a greater appetite for life and greater confidence. They find it easier to get what they desire in life because they are naturally magnetic and people like to be around them.

We might not agree on exactly what makes a person so magnetic but if someone accused us of having it, we wouldn't argue with them. Something so attractive about them makes us all want to have it.

Sexual confidence is something one feels on the inside, yet also must project on the outside in order for it to truly come across to whom ever you may be coming in contact with. It concerns your values and emotions and how you feel about yourself as well as your sexual behaviour, who you are attracted to and how you choose to express, channel and focus your innate and raw sexual energy.

Is sexual confidence something that is natural? Sometimes….sometimes not. Depends on how you were raised. How you feel about yourself. What you were programmed with as a child. Much of our sexual confidence comes from having a confident perception of oneself as a desirable sexual man or sexual woman.

Signs indicative of genuine masculine or feminine confidence are confusing today and gender roles are a chaotic mess but when it comes to dating and mating, we are not all that different from our ancestors in that we instinctually look for clues to a man's or woman's level of masculine or feminine confidence... and test it to the limit...

A man or woman lacking sexual confidence may turn off the opposite sex by using defense mechanisms that, in themselves, become ongoing problems for him or her. A sexually confident man or woman on the other hand, will find it much easier to attract others of the opposite sex. So, before you engage in a serious dating relationship that has the possibility of lasting for a lifetime your sexual confidence needs be at a good level. The same is true for anyone you date.

Sexual confidence whether you are beautiful, good looking, plain, smart, nice, mean, rich, poor old, young - is an unavoidable social skill which can and must be learned if what you want is the greatest intimate relationship of your life.

Now as you know, confidence is an attitude thing. You can easily emit cool sexual confidence by merely adjusting your attitude. The more positive your attitude towards yourself, the opposite sex, sexuality, humanity and life in general, the more sex appeal you will radiate.

These simple exercises will help you feel more poised and confident at home and out in the world. The goal is to take the feelings of confidence, control and sexiness you get from doing them out in the real world.

Start by doing these exercises alone, then do them in front of your partner, a friend, or a family member with whom you feel comfortable. Even your pet will do!

First, walk around your bedroom or living room while moving your arms all around. Reach to the sides, swing them above your head and so on. Let your body take over the entire space tell yourself that you own the room. The idea is to "occupy the territory," like in the early days of hunters and gatherers. If you're in the mood, put on your favorite music and dance. Nothing is sexier! If you're feeling especially daring, take off all of your clothes and move around naked. When the space feels completely yours, move on to the next exercise.

This exercise will help you develop more poise and confidence. Naturally, when you feel poised and confident, you also look this way. Stand opposite a full-length mirror, as far away from the mirror as you can get. Relax your body and breathe deeply for a few minutes. Watch your posture and make sure you are standing very straight, with your shoulders down and relaxed and your feet planted firmly. Imagine your upper body being pulled toward the ceiling by invisible strings while your feet and legs are pulled toward the floor.

Walk slowly toward the mirror, pointing your toes with each step and caressing the floor with your feet. Think of yourself as a lion, lioness, a king, a queen, a movie star or any other empowered person who suits your fantasy. While continuing to watch yourself in the mirror, sit down on a sofa or chair. Do this slowly and gracefully. Magnify all your gestures. It's okay to exaggerate to make sure half of what you do will eventually become part of who you are and how you act in the real world.

If you're adventurous, invite your partner or opposite sex friend to sit on a chair wearing a blindfold while you move around the room. Ask him or her to imagine that his or her hands are tied to the chair and tell him he or she cannot talk. The idea is for you to think of him or her as being confined and of yourself as being free to move around however you wish. Experience the feeling of being in control, of feeling superior. Remember, this is only play. If you are doing it with a partner and would like to take this to the next step, remove your clothes and continue the exercise in the nude. Whether you decide to tell your partner that you are taking off your clothes is up to you. Just be sure he or she does not remove his or her blindfold.

Remember how you felt while performing these exercises, then recall that feeling the next time you enter a a conference room, party or your bedroom! The goal is to be able to enter a space with the kind of quiet assertiveness that makes others stop and notice you.

The attitude of confidence doesn't even have to be constant, just generally present most of the time.

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