One of the hardest things for us humans to grock is
change. From the minute we are born we are subjected to it, surrounded
by it and experience the results of it. Yet, we are resistant to
change, afraid of the impact of it, and in general simply abhor it. You
would think that by the time we reached adulthood, change would be a
welcome life partner, considering that change normally brings with it
the opportunity for self-realization and personal-growth. But no – we
kick, scream, and complain our way to adulthood allowing ourselves to
be intimidated by something that is as part of us as breathing.
Well, the truth is our tiny little ego minds cannot
seem to get a grip on change – even if the mystery within us embraces
it. It's simply a matter of what point of view you choose to see life
from in any moment. If the eternal aspect of you is viewing life – it
is sure to see your current circumstances with neutrality, objectivity
and detachment. However, if you are observing your life from your
ego-mind, you are sure to be stressed, troubled and engaged in fighting
life - doomed to be caught up in the minutia of your circumstances and
judging them to be good or bad from one moment to the next.
The result of this kind of resistance is suffering,
something which we are all too familiar with. So how can we lift
ourselves out of our suffering and learn to embrace change? The first
step is to learn to embrace the truth. The truth is that there is only
change and that change is initiated either by actions taken with
awareness or without awareness. Even if you take action without
awareness – you are still going to create a reaction – so why be
surprised or pass blame? This is simply how the universe works.
Now let's talk about the second step – detaching
from internal judgment. Once you let go of your judgment of yourself
and others – you'll be able to see your world with your spiritual eyes
and have neutrality regarding life. You totally lose your neutrality
and clarity when you start judging your actions and the reactions that
result from them.
Any time you choose to see your reality
through your program/ego-mind you will experience pain. Sure it's nice
if you could judge all the circumstances in your life as good – but you
would be experiencing happiness secondary to your judgment.
That means that you are not centered and at peace – you are still on an
emotional rollercoaster due to your judgment even if that judgment is
"good."
That is why it's important to seek neutrality or
equanimity on our spiritual path – it's good practice so that we can
learn to see with our spiritual eyes rather than our filters. I
encourage you to embrace change as your life partner and lover. It will
have you enjoying your life a lot more and you'll become excited about
living rather than being cautionary and fearful. Go ahead – give it a
try…
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