It's so interesting to see the way people behave
once they begin a spiritual path. As their awareness starts to blossom,
they often feel compelled to reflect to those around them, the issues,
faults and problems of others. The first thing we begin to see more
clearly is the behavior of others, as our own personal behavior is more
difficult to observe. This is because the ego mind is protective of its
territory and does not want to be challenged, changed or usurped.
It takes an open heart and mind to be able to train oneself to look
inward and concentrate on oneself rather than what is happening
"outside" of us.
A perfect example of this is when a disagreement
occurs between two people. We may become frustrated with that person
for not seeing things the way we feel they should be seen.
When we feel we're right, we project our inner energy of frustration
and anger (which is the result of our judgmental thought forms) on the
other person and they perceive that – usually unconsciously. They in
turn start to react to the perceived judgment and become defensive.
Then, we in turn feel compelled to let them know that they are behaving
badly and that they have issues. However, we're not taking
responsibility for what we're creating in that situation. We've been
projecting our emotions outward and not recognizing what the result of
that action is. The other person's defensiveness is the result of OUR
behavior and pointing out to them that they have issues is not
awareness. That is using our spiritual path like a hammer to judge
others with.
That's why it's imperative that upon embarking on our spiritual path, we be very careful to avoid telling others what we feel they are
doing. Instead we must focus on ourselves and what we're creating with
our words, emotions, judgments and opinions. This can be quite
challenging because we've been domesticated by society to look outward
all at all times; we believe that events are happening outside of us.
This way of seeing the world causes us to take on a victim point of
view, but in truth there is no outside of the one to be victimized by.
Since everyone is part of the one, we are always co-creating life in
billions of combinations, like a kaleidoscope. Still in the end, the
other person's side of the fence so to speak, is not our concern. Only
what we are thinking, projecting and doing matters – as that is the only thing we can change.
I encourage you to deeply consider how you are
projecting your energy, emotions, thoughts and feelings outward and
what the possible reactions to your behavior might be. Rather than
jumping to the conclusion that they are to blame, instead ask yourself:
How am I co-creating this situation, and how am I compelling this
person to react in this way with my projections? Let me know what you
observe, you might be surprised!
As always, I wish you the best on your path. |
