Once you have been with someone for a length of time things can go stale, you seek ways to continue keeping your relationship fresh and new.
What would be better than remaining in the honeymoon stage forever? What could be better than always feeling as in love with your partner as the first time you kissed, or the day your eyes first met? What could be better than having the person, who is the closet to you in the world, absolutely in love with you, like it was in the early stages?
Nothing, right?
The lingering question in many minds though is how can you do this? How can you manage to keep things fresh and new and the answer is actually quite simple. Don't get stuck in a rut. Change things up, try new things. Continue to grow in your relationship as time passes. As soon as we stop trying new things with our partners, as soon as we no longer care what we are doing and just continue to live life in a mundane fashion, everything including your relations loses it's sparkle. It loses the freshness it once had.
One way of doing this is to try a weekly date. Have one night a week where you try something new, where you have time to reconnect and re-establish the spark. Nothing is more special than trying a new food, a new date, a new thing, than when it is done with someone you hold dear. That way whenever you taste that food, or do that certain thing again, you will always be reminded of the person you love. You will always be reminded of the one you spent that special night with.
Okay, so there are no real secrets here. We all know that we get bored of the same old, same old, but very few of us realize it and apply it to our relationships. One of the best ways of keeping a relationship strong and new is to do things together. Things that are new. Remember, the honeymoon stage only felt so great because everything about your relationship and each other was new. Once past it, it is now your responsibility to keep the relationship going.
Sylvia, for all of us who've been in relationships for quite a while, you make good points! Thanks for sharing this; it's worth it to "work" on relationships as opposed to tossing them when things get boring!
Hi Sylvia, thanks for this reminder. It is easy to take eachother for granted once we have been around eachother. My husband and I just celebrated our 24th wedding anniversary and yesterday we celebrated the day we met 28 years ago.
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