Marriage is a God formed institution. Thats why its the oldest and is a unique institution. But so many times our marriage ship totters on the sea of life. And we get upset, downcast, sad, angry, irritated, depressed, disturbed, gloomy, miserable, unhappy, dejected, fed-up etc.; the expressions and the emotions are unending. So many times it happens to me also. I feel the same way as you all do. In those circumstances I discovered three magic points that has helped and may help our marriage ship to drift smoothly on the wavering sea. Those are as follows:
Humility: Yes! This may hurt your male ego, but trust me this is magical. It works instantaneously. The Bible says, Blessed are the meek: for they shall inherit the earth. Your humility can help you to restore your lost property. Thats the love and peace at your home. It is very difficult to practice meekness or humility but it is also very important to restore your possessions that help your marital ship float well.
I am trying hard to learn humility and practice it daily at home. Please lets do the same whether we are female or male partner.
Availability: Oh! I am so tired. Thats true, but don't watch TV. Go and spend some quality time with your spouse. You will feel relaxed. My conscience always speaks to me this way when I don't make myself available to my wife. This is also a very important and vital thing to keep our marital ship afloat.
I watch TV and exercise my personal space a lot. I always think when we are married we should always exercise personal space as little as possible. But could not work out accordingly. My selfishness motivates me to search for my personal space. In my previous article Are You Married Or Still Single? I did mentioned about being selfish and personal space. Read it.
Please lets make ourselves available to our partners.
Honesty: This can hurt our partner on the spot but will make her / him happy and proud for our honesty later. If we lose our credibility before our partner, then its very difficult to handle or face bigger problems together at our home.
Lets speak clear and loud but not harshly, in fact softly as possible.
The above three magic points can really build and develop our relationship with our spouse. Lets practice Humility, Availability & Honesty in our marital relationship on a daily basis. We can be much relaxed and smile HAH HAH HAH (H-Humility, A-Availability & H-Honesty) again & again.
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Chiradeep Patra is a married man and is blessed with a wonderful wife by his side. He is an Accountant in a social organization in India. Apart from this he is a counselor, who finished his Post Graduation Diploma in Psychological Counseling, from Institute of Psychotherapy and Management Sciences, Mumbai. He is also an author of many articles on different webzines. He has also written articles for the magazines like, Harvest Times For Your Family, Grace Counselor, Prajapati etc. He along with his wife publish a booklet called CANDLES. He is a Life Member of ACFI (AIDS Control Foundation of India).
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He can be contacted at: chiradeeppatra@hotmail.com
marriage takes work, it's just that simple, and just that complex.
complex because it's not always easy to know what to do to blend with our partner, but if we treat them as we would like to be treated, we will have less sadness, and more respectful happiness.
You're correct Sue! The definitions and terminologies don't work in a marriage. Everything is unpredictable. Its better to do whatever we want ourselves. Thanks and God bless...
Marriage is a second life for everyone. When you are single, you are in a world, but when you get married, you are in another world. Good article though. Thank you
An article everyone can benefit from as new info or reminder. Most of us relate to a spouse or other family. What you advise works for all and is much-needed in relationships.
I can see your heart in this article. I am a former Pastoral Counselor. I have found that the most successful solution to maintaining a happy marriage is not 50-50. It's 100-100. We must be 100% aware and supportive of our partner's needs and feelings as they must be of ours.
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Well those are the overall fundamentals of keeping a relationship going. However, there are many things sometimes very little and sometimes very large, depending on the partners, that one has to work at. It is a full time job and while your suggestions are excellent it is a full time job. Sorry for the confusion.
I am developing my relationship with these points, then definitely it will restore the broken relationships also.
I am happy that you enjoyed...Thanks & God bless...
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