We were taught to approach life from a perspective of
fear, survival, lack and scarcity. We were taught that life is about
destinations, and that when we get to point X be it marriage or college
degree or fame and fortune or whatever - we will live happily ever
after.
Of course, this is not the way life works and you already
know that and probably discarded that fairy tale ending intelluctually
a long time ago. On the emotional and imprint level we keep looking for
it because that is what the child in us was taught. We keep living life
as if it is a dress rehearsal for "when our ship comes in". For when we
really start to live. For when we get that relationship, or
accomplishment or money that will make us okay, that will fix us.
We
do not require FIXING because we are NOT BROKEN. Our sense of self, our
self perception, was shattered and fractures and broken into pieces,
not our TRUE SELF.
We are Spiritual Beings having a human
experience. We are all here to learn and we are here to go through this
process that is life. Finally we are here to feel these feelings. Doing
our emotional and imprint healing allows us to feel clear about what
what is in front of us instead of torturing ourselves by obsessively
thinking, trying to figure out what is right and what is wrong.
Let
us first look at some definitions before we continue, Obsessive
thinking is an emotional defense and is a manifestations of
codependency. Being in our heads, thinking, fantasizing, ruminating, is
a defense we adapted in childhood to help is disassociate from the
emotional pain we were experiencing. It is not for our highest good
because it keeps us focused on the future or the past, we miss out on
being live today, in the NOW. It is not for our highest good because
our attempts to ESCAPE unpleasant feelings causes us to generate more
unpleasant feelings.
Worry which can be described as negative
fantasizing, is a reaction to fear of the unknown which creates more
fear, which creates more worry, which creates more fear and so on. This
fear is a manifestation of codependency, a distorted, magnified,
virulent, mutated species of fear caused by the poisonous combination
of a false Belief that being human is shameful with a polarized (black
and white, right and wrong) perspective of life. This self
perpetuating, self destructive type of obsessive thinking feeds not
only on fear, but on shaming ourselves for feeling the fear!
Codependency
is a useless emotional defense system adapted by our egos to help us
survive. The polarized perspective of life we were programmed with in
early childhood from our environment and imprint creation as well as
inherited imprints, causes us to be afraid of making a mistake, of
doing life "wrong". At the core of our being, we feel unlovable and
unworthy and we spend great amounts of Energy trying to keep our
shameful defectiveness a secret. We feel that , if we were perfect like
we "SHOULD" be, we would not feel fear and confusion and would have
reached "happily ever after" by now. So, we shame ourselves for feeling
fear, which adds gasoline to the inferno of fear that is driving us.
The shame and fear that drive obsession becomes so painful and "crazy
making" that at some point we have to find a way to shut down our minds
for a little while - drugs, alcohol, food, sleep, shopping, television,
sex, etc.
This is a very sad way to relate to life. The fear we
are empowering is about the future, shame is about the past. We are not
capable of being in the NOW and enjoying life because we are caught up
in trauma melodramas about things which have not yet happened - or
wallowing in orgies of self recrimination about the past, which can not
be changed. Codependent behavior does not allow one to really live life
in line with their Higher Self and shadows the Essence of the TRUE
Self. IT is very important that these imprints be removed from the
energetic field.
Obsessive thinking and compulsive behavior is
caused by, and fed by, fear and shame. The feeling that the world will
come to an end if____ doesn't happen, or that it has come to an end
because ____ happened, is a feeling coming from the wounded child
within and related imprints firing. It is the result of early childhood
emotional trauma and the subconscious programming adapted by our egos
to help us survive at a time when we were helpless and powerless.
An
adult is not helpless and powerless. We are, however, powerless to know
that, as long as we are UNCONSCIOUSLY reacting to repressed emotional
energy and imprints and programming from the subconscious. It is
impossible to see our self or life clearly when we are caught up in
trauma dramas (internally and externally) that feel life threatening.
It is our codependency that we are in denial of our emotions at the
same time we are allowing unconscious imprint programming and the
feelings of the Inner Child to define and dictate our lives.
Removing
the imprints, programming, beliefs and other energetic blockages will
help a person take power away from the fear and shame that drives
obsessive thinking. Learning to be companssionate in our relationship
WITH OUR SELF by not shaming ourselves for being human beings, will
help to take power away from the obsessive thinking.
Love is the
answer to obsession but not the love of another person. Learning to be
LOVING TO YOURSELF and remembering that there is a LOVING HIGHER POWER
is the best way to stop obsessive thinking. To learn more visit http://www.frequencyawareness.com
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