So the time has come and you think you `re ready to have sex. Well think again. I use the word think because it represents uncertainty. There is a huge difference between knowing and thinking it`s time to have sexual intercourse. You have to be absolutely sure about losing your virginity. More often than not uncertainty has seen many unwanted pregnancies and, sexually transmitted diseases caught. Readiness can relate to a multitude of things, for example: ready for wedlock or to give birth or, leave home? Some teens think they know it all and for a great deal of them (know it all`s,) we know what thought done. Most of them that did more "thinking" than "knowing" now nurse a baby or treat an STD.
Readiness is a personal matter between you and you only. Knowing when the time feels right for having sex is a personal decision, whether you're in a long standing relationship or having casual sex. Casual sex can be very unhealthy indeed and you need to monitor your frequent romps and bring them down to a level of safety to keep safe. Your sexual partners should be kept to a minimum and condoms used at every convenience. Before finalizing any decision about coupling think about your health and make sure you are content with the situation. It is said "safety in numbers," not what it comes down to sex it`s not.
Having sex is not compulsory, so remember this if you`re being bullied into losing your virginity. Sexual intercourse has to be a joint agreement between both people regardless of gender. Readiness means being aware of the risks involved from having unprotected sex and more importantly, understanding what these risks are and the consequences that derive from them.
Sex isn't just a physical act it`s a mental doing which affects your feelings on the inside. For some people who having sex for the time seem to think it is a physical thing – where the sexual encounter is a quick 2 minute fumble of wham bang wallop and it`s over. Sex is all about loving and caring, not groping. You need to talk to your partner and express what you're feeling before the loving or groping starts - this will bring you both closer together and help you both understand what you expect from each other. If your body is to connect intimately with a person of the opposite sex then the bond of closeness needs to be a true wanting. You need to be aware of each other's expectations, and by doing this you can satisfy your sexual partner in the department they want satisfying in. If you're a virgin then make it a priority to tell your sexual partner this. If you tend on losing your virginity then it is best to lose it to someone you love and trust and not to any Tom Dick or Harry. The number of young girls/boys who regret this moment ever happening is quite high. Losing your virginity should be special; it is a time when you give yourself. Is this not reason enough to give yourself to someone you love, and not to someone whose name you don`t know.
The key to satisfying sex is to be open and honest with your partner.
Girls who believe they are "ready" for having sex still "query" particular issues. From this alone it tells us you`re not ready. Readiness is about knowing all there is to know. If you have last minute questions or doubts then is the time to "re-think" about the uncertainty we spoke of.
1 There is no chance I can get pregnant if the penis is retracted before ejaculation. What cloud are you on luvvy, of course you can so be weary. Sperm can still be present in pre-cum. It only takes one sperm to connect with the egg to fall pregnant. Some men will not always be honest and will ejaculate just to please themselves. In other cases men can forget or not quick enough to withdraw the penis to prevent sperm entering the vagina.
2 I can`t fall pregnant while menstruating. Of course you can. We have more teen mums with babies because they believed this to be true. Pregnancy can occur during a period and especially towards the end of the menstrual cycle. This does not mean for you to have sex in the early days of your period.
3 I know for sure you can`t get pregnant having sex while standing up because I did it once this way and didn't get pregnant. Well lucky you because you can. You may have had what we call a near miss and you should be thanking you're lucky stars. If you have unprotected sex while standing, crouching or even while doing a handstand you can get pregnant.
4 I use condoms which are 100% safe. Sorry but they are not. Although considered an effective form of contraception, they can split. Use condoms in conjunction with other forms of contraception (the pill.) If you`re worried because a condom has split while having sex, you will see your next monthly if you act quickly. Take emergency contraception, the morning after pill. This should be taken within 72 hours of having sex.
5 I take the contraceptive pill and therefore can`t fall pregnant. If you miss a pill popping session it can result in pregnancy. Particular contraceptive pills can take time to work. This can range from 0-14 days. Use contraception methods during this time.
The birth control pill should be taken daily at the same time if possible. If you forget to take your pill at the regular time you normally do, then take it as soon as, nevertheless if there is a time lapse of 12 hours then it is seen as a missed pill (three hours late for the mini-pill, although with the mini pill Cerazette you have a 12-hour window.) If you have been really forgetful and forgotten to take more than one pill then the last missed pill should be taken and the rest of the pill packet taken as normal.
If you have heard that weeing after having sexual intercourse washes out sperm, well it doesn`t. Urine leaves the bladder through the urethra, which lies over the vaginal opening so sperm is not affected by this. If you are ready for having sex then you will know it because there will be no uncertainties to address, however if there is, cancel all plans which include popping your cherry.
Abortion figures in England and Wales in 2007 was made openly public in June 2008 and approved by the UK Statistics authority which can be checked out by you if you would like to know the numbers. Unprotected sex has us look at more and more people infected with gonorrhea. Over the last decade there has been a huge jump in sexually transmitted diseases in the UK. Uncomplicated gonorrhea increased by 42% between 1998 and 2007, while genital Chlamydia increased by 150%. STD (Chlamydia) is primarily the most reported sexually transmitted disease since 2001, spreading genital warts. Bacterial infections have rapidly shot up partly due to a general deterioration in sexual health amongst young people and homosexual men.
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