My brother-in-law called my wife today, and said that he had an employee, that was having trouble breathing last night, he had instructed the employee to go and sit at the employee's break area to rest and relax, and asked if she had used her inhaler and she said she did, but was still having trouble breathing, My wife used to be a store manager for the same chain, and he asked my wife it he was required to file a incident report, because he wound up calling 911 for her; as her condition had worsened, and the paramedic told him as they were taking her out of the store, that it didn't look to good for the woman. She was around 55 years of age. She was young.
My wife informed him of course, that he did have to fill out a incident report, as it is the Managers responsibility to do so, because of liability reasons to the store, so he filled it out and turned in the incident report to corporate. News came the next day, that the employee had unfortunately died at the hospital. It was shocking news for everyone. This really affected me, and I wasn't sure why? I started to think about this, and my mind began to wonder, and ponder the sequence of which her day must have started and ended.
I was horribably saddened by these thoughts. She probably got up and started her day as usual, never knowing what was in store for her that night at work, nor would her family know that it would be the last time they would ever see her alive. I felt an over-whelming sadness that poured over me like a giant waterfall. What were the last things that was said to her? Did her loved ones tell her "Mom, or Honey, I love you, and I will see you tonight...have a great day"! Not knowing what was to be.
So many times, we take life for granted. We always assume that we will see our loved ones again that evening after work, and all will be well, which is totally normal. I didn't even know the woman, yet I feel a deep sense of sadness for her and her family. This is exactly why, before my wife leaves the house for work, I always tell her how much I love her, and how much she means to me. You just never know do you? My wife is my life, and I'm not sure how I would, or if I could, handle her loss. Never seeing her smile again, never hearing her laughter, never seeing the love in her eyes, or the pout of her bottom lip. Never having her hug me again. The smell of her perfume in the house, the pot roast she had in the slow cooker before she left the house, that I wouldn't feel like eating, because she wouldn't be there to share it with me. What would I do? How would I handle the loss of my soul mate? No one to cuddle with that night, or the next, or the next. I think that the good Lord is giving me a valuble insight not to take life with a loved one for granted.
Why did this incident leave me feeling this way? Is it my own mortality that is being realized or tested, or perhaps that of my wife? Death, even though I know it is a cycle of life, has been hard for me after my mom died. I had felt that there was some unfinished things that I wanted to say or do for my mom, and I just don't want to make the same mistake with my soul mate. I just couldn't imagine loosing another loved one, especially my wife of 27 years. I felt sorry for my brother in law, because he is in the medical profession as a COTA, and I'm sure he felt badly, and I'm sure he is questioning himself as to if he did all he could for her (which he really did).
In closing, I think what my point is here, is never take a loved one for granted, value them, cherish them, and let them know how much they mean to you, and don't be affraid to tell them how much you love and cherish them. Just think about the lady in this story, and how her family must feel....don't put yourself in that same situation...let your loved ones know on a regular basis, and say it to them "I Love You honey, and have a great day, you mean the world to me". Never leave your loved one in anger, always say "I love you" before you go to sleep. Tell her or him every chance you get what they mean to you. It may be the last time you will be able to tell them, or for them it may be the last time they hear it from you if something should happen to you. Do this, and at least you know that if something
does happen, (God Forbid)
that they at least know you loved them, and they meant the world to you. That is the last thing I want her to hear from me, and for them to take with them.
I will pray for the lady and her family, "May God Rest Her Wonderful Soul"
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