Do you REALLY know what you're in for when you enter a second
marriage? Most people don’t. Common sense might tell us that second
marriages have a higher success rate because we’ve made our mistakes and moved
on…but unfortunately, this is just not the case. You’re about to discover the top 5 reasons why second marriages fail. Take
this opportunity to learn from others’ mistakes to make certain your second
marriage is the best one yet. 1. PART 1: Let the Tug of War Begin (Please substitute
male/female where appropriate.) The competition begins when a woman enters her second marriage, but her new
husband is confused about his role in the marriage in relation to her children.
He wants his new wife to make HIM the priority and the children want their mom
to make THEM the priority. This “tug of war" creates contempt and resentment leaving the woman in the
middle feeling like she has to “choose a side". This is one of the biggest
factors that puts strain on a second marriage. But the sad fact is this is only
HALF the battle in the “tug of war" that leads to a second divorce… 2. PART 2: War of the Wives The next part of the “tug of war" is when one spouse tries to get more of her
ex husband’s money. Since she resents her ex, she feels she’s entitled to his
money because of “what he put her through". At the other end of the ‘rope’ is this man’s current wife. She doesn’t feel
the other woman deserves any of his money because he has a new life now…with a
new wife. She feels that the court-ordered money is more than enough and the ex
wife is now being greedy. 3. The Quest for Mr. / Mrs. Right This is another big reason why second marriages fail. Going into a second
marriage without realizing why the first one failed is like NASA building a new
rocket before finding out why the last one exploded. Instead of focusing on what REALLY went wrong in their last marriage, people
often place blame solely on their ex husband or wife. They end up believing that
the key to a happy marriage is simply finding the right partner. If you’ve thought this way before, I’ve got news for you….there is no
“right partner." There never will be. The “key" is finding someone who
has values similar to yours. And you won’t know this unless you DISCUSS them
with your partner. Good FEELINGS are NOT proof you’ve found a good match. Now I don’t
mean to “burst your bubble", but if you ONLY get married because of your
feelings for each other, you’re setting yourself up for failure. 4. Been There, Done That It’s easier to get a divorce in a second marriage because there’s no fear of
the unknown like there was when you contemplated divorce in your first marriage.
People in a second marriage are far LESS willing to forgive and forget their
spouse’s little imperfections, yet they’re MORE willing to call it quits because
they’ve been through divorce before. But at no point in time do they ever stop and look at themselves and the part
that THEY played in the failure of their last marriage– they just move on in
their quest for Mr. or Mrs. Right instead of trying to improve their current
relationship. 5. Which is it YOUR Money, MY Money or OUR Money? Whether you like it or not, MONEY plays a big part in every marriage. But
what most money problems really boil down to is…TRUST. When couples get
married, they’re faced with the question of combined or separate income. When women are faced with husbands who insist on separate incomes, they feel
insecure, but more importantly, they begin to sense distrust. And after all,
what she’s looking for is financial and emotional security. So when her husband insists on “your money" and “my money", she sees it as
insinuating that she cannot be trusted with his finances. Since she’s not sure
whether her husband is out to protect HER or protect himself FROM her, this
trust issue will ALWAYS be a strain on the second marriage unless it is openly
discussed. Now that you know the top 5 reasons why second marriages fail you can go into
your second marriage completely aware of the pitfalls that blind-side 60% of
those who remarry for the second time. The best advice I can give you is get
everything out in the open before you make a commitment. It may not be very ‘romantic’ to discuss your beliefs and values about issues
like money and children, but if you want to make your second marriage your last
– it’s absolutely CRITICAL you discover any drawbacks that could
potentially destroy your new marriage.
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