Preparing the vagina for sex, I mean have you ever heard the likes. The mind boggles over some of the things we have to face up to or become a part of so we don`t miss the boat. I can`t get my head round what is meant by preparing the vagina for sex. Does it mean styling pubic hair so it looks more attractive? Does it mean shaving pubic hair off as it`s supposed to be more hygienic, or heaven forbid does it mean to have a chat with it telling it what to expect, you know, like how we prepare our kids telling them of the birds and bees - down to talking to our plants to make them grow? Hey guys this strictly applies to plants only.
In my days of growing up and to who I am today, and believe me I have been around a long time, I have never heard of such nonsense. The vagina is an organ of the body that prepares itself for sexual intercourse. To avoid confusion this issue of vaginal readiness has given rise to needs to be explained more clearly. It is not the vagina in need of preparation; it is the person in possession of it. Of course this won`t apply to them already sexually active because they know what happens at the time of sex (before and after,) but if this is to be your first sexual encounter where you have planned with your partner, that after foreplay intercourse will take place then there is nothing you need to know aside from you being sure you are ready for this.
To prepare yourself for sex you have to be absolutely sure it is what you want, and not what others want. You may have reservations about losing your virginity. If uncertainties prevail then this is a sign to say you`re not ready. Don`t be bullied into doing something you're not comfortable with. And if in relation to sexual intercourse then don`t do it.
Reservations might include
You are underage
You might fall pregnant
You don`t love your partner
You think it will hurt
You are embarrassed
You might catch a disease
These are usual reasons for doubting un-readiness. You`re not on your own because at some stage some boy/girl will have felt the same way about one of the doubters presented above.
The age of consent for heterosexual sex in England and Wales for any form of sexual activity is 16 for both sexes.
In relation to reservation 1 - Why we have laws on underage sex is purely to protect young vulnerable people from abuse or from having sex before they are ready. Age of consent varies in different countries, so be careful if travelling abroad to play the field. Think before you have sex for the first time and whether it is right for you as many people regret having sex too young. If you believe you`re ready for sex then you must use a condom for protection against an unwanted pregnancy or an STI. You can get free confidential advice about sex and contraception even if you`re under the legal age of consent.
Reservation 2 Where the misconception has come from that you "can`t" get pregnant from your first sexual experience is beyond me. Who ever brought this about is a fool, and you an even bigger one if you believe it. If a girl has vaginal sex with a bloke, there is great risk of pregnancy. Even if ejaculation happens outside of the vagina, you can still fall pregnant.
Reservation 3 If you don`t love the guy then this surely should tell you not to have sexual intercourse. Making love is about coupling with someone who you desire and want to be with. Not someone who turns your stomach. Having good sex will only prevail with the right partner and you`re at the age of consent.
Reservation 4 You shouldn`t have pain when having sexual intercourse unless you have an infection. With your first sexual experience you could suffer discomfort. If sex were painful then why is everyone doing it and going back for more and more, we call these people sex addicts - not masochists, but people who enjoy sex. If they use protection when sleeping with different partners then they are what we now call "sensible." The discomfort that girls might have when having sex for the first time is usually because the hymen has broken. The hymen is a piece of tissue that, during development, blocks some or all of the opening to the vagina. Not all women have the same sort of hymen. In some, the opening to the vagina is mostly, or completely, unhindered; in others, a condition called "imperforate hymen" can block the whole opening not allowing menstrual blood to flow freely.
Reservation 5 Having sex (making love) is a natural thing that we humans do. It is a way people show affection for each other in a more intimate way other than just kissing someone on the cheek. It is nothing to be embarrassed over, worried yes if you are under age or have no condom. If you have sex while under age you are breaking the law. It is seen as a crime and for crimes committed you could go to jail. If you don`t have a condom easily to hand then it needs to be hand-work that takes place until you do get a condom. Don`t leave anything to chance because the consequences can seriously affect your health.
What`s the difference between having sex and making love. Having sex may last a couple of minutes - whereas making love is so much more meaningful for the couple and can last a very long time till each one shows just how meaningful they can be to each other.
Reservation 6 You definitely need reservations about STIs if you`re thinking about having sex without protection. Symptoms differ between STIs and some have no symptoms at all. Symptoms from an STi that have them, may include a change in vaginal discharge or discharge from the penis, heavy periods or bleeding between the menstrual cycle, pain or burning sensation when urinating, rashes, itchiness or tingling around the genitals or anus. If you believe you`re infected by a venereal disease go to a Genito-Urinary Medicine (GUM) clinic to have it determined or treated. If you test positive for a sexually transmitted infection, the clinic will encourage you to talk to your present partner and, where relevant, previous partners, so that they too can be tested. It's called playing it safe so they can be treated, and avoid passing the infection on UN-be known to them. Staff at the clinic will not identify you as the person who has supplied the names.
Using a male/female condom can help prevent transmission of most STIs. Infections you are looking to avoid if you dare to have unprotected sex are listed below:
Chlamydia
Gonorrhoea
Genital herpes
Genital warts
HIV and AIDS
Hepatitis B
Trichomoniasis
Syphilis
About Gonorrhea
Not all men infected with gonorrhea will have symptoms but for the men that do, signs/symptoms appear two to five days after infection; symptoms can take as long as 30 days to happen. These may consist of a burning sensation when urinating, or a white, yellow, or green discharge (pus type) from the penis. It is not unusual for the testicles to pain and swell.
In women, the symptoms of gonorrhea are often mild. They can be so non-specific as to be mistaken for a bladder or vaginal infection. Primary symptoms/signs in women include a painful or burning sensation when passing water, plenty of vaginal discharge, or vaginal bleeding between periods.
About Chlamydia
Chlamydia is a bacterial sexually transmitted infection that affects both genders. Once again another infection, which doesn`t always show obvious signs or symptoms, so it can go unnoticed. It's recommended that people under the age of 25 who are sexually active should be tested for chlamydia every year. If you do notice something isn`t right then it's likely to show up 7 to 21 days after having sex.
Chlamydia is known as the "Invisible Infection." But if visible symptoms do occur men may see:
Penis discharge.
Pain/burning when weeing.
Women:
A change in vaginal discharge.
Constant painful peeing.
Painful sex.
Bleeding between periods or irregular periods
Are these diseases worth jeopardizing your health for where the consequences can be fatal if particular STDs are left untreated? If you choose to ignore the golden rule by not using a rubber sheath then your first sexual intercourse experience could end up being your last.
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