Many people experience problems in relationship because they do not have any idea whether their relationship is healthy. As an ordinary human being, we constantly seek for advancement in everything we do. No doubt that this is good in almost every area of our life but this is not always true when it comes to relationship. Seeking for improvement is good to a relationship if you work to improve it from the inside out. However if you start to seek improvement by comparing it with other couples, you are asking for trouble. The reason is simple as almost every relationship is not the same and it is impossible for you to compare it with other couples. The definition of a healthy relationship may not be the same for each couple and hence before you dare to think that your relationship is inadequate or unhealthy, evaluate the below to determine whether your relationship needs improvement.
In every healthy relationships,
1) Both you and your partners enjoy passion and safety. There is also a shared sense of intense passion and sexuality but they are not the key aspect of the relationship. In other word, passion and sexuality are the resultant of a balance relationship but not the cause.
2) Your relationship revolves around shared values, goals and lifestyle preferences which were established based on respect, trust and sense of security.
3) You know who your partner is and what your partner wants and vice versa, your partner knows who you are and what you want.
4) Both your feelings’ and communication are well balanced and clear. You do not allow your feeling to be the excuse on irresponsible act which can affect your relationship and vice versa.
5) Both you and your partner has the room to think clearly for yourselves, for each other and as well as your relationship as a whole.
6) Both you and your partner are present for each other and vow to support each other’s wants or needs to the best ability.
7) You are satisfied with whom you are and more important you are satisfied with whom your partner is.
8) You do not hide your partner behind the scene and are proud with what they do/did or who they are and vice versa.
9) You are please with the relationship that you both built and you know that nothing can replace the relationship and lastly,
10) You have a realistic expectation on the relationship, on what it can or cannot do for you and most importantly both of you are happy and satisfied with the expectation.
If your relationship possessed most of the above quality, you are on the right track to a perfect relationship and you have nothing worry about. Seek to work on improving the other area that is lacking. And for those who did not meet the above quality, you can always use the above as a guideline to improve the health of your relationship.
About the Author
Alex Chew is the webmaster of Perfect-Relationship.com and the author of several relationship e-books. He specialized in LDR and has been actively involve in helping romantic couples on their journey through his research work and books. For more resources on relationship advice, please visit http://www.perfect-relationship.com.
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