We see it all around us, teenagers becoming pregnant at young ages. It is becoming the norm in our society as more and more publicity is given to young moms. Along with more and more girls learning about sex earlier and earlier and then acting on what they learn.
First things first, if you are a teenager or girl who thinks she is pregnant, know that you are not alone. Online there are countless girls in the same place as you: scared. Chances are you have come to this article looking for hope and ways to break the news to your parents.
Here are a few suggestions or tips on how to tell your parents that you have gotten pregnant or think you are pregnant.
Don't run away
Running away is the easy way out and if you are going to be a mom, you need to realize now that running is not an option. It is dangerous. You had sex. You can't take that back so it is time to face forward and prepare yourself for the future.
Trust Your Parents
Despite all the hormones you are experiencing along with the negative thoughts that come with being pregnant and a teenager-your parents love you. They are experienced and despite how different you think they are, at this point in your life you need them more than ever. They know more. They have experienced more. They love you.
Show you are responsible
Getting pregnant was not a responsible thing with all the birth control methods available these days. I know it hurts to hear that, but it is true. However, at this point, you can not take back that action. You have to show your parents now that you are responsible. Start acting like it. Clean up after yourself, take extra chores, cook dinner, do laundry, etc.
Do Your homework
Know all your options before meeting with your parents. Does the baby's father want to be involved? Do you want to put it up for adoption? Do you want to keep it? Does your school have rules against being pregnant or can you do work online? Have a plan in place or options to share with your family when you talk with them so that it will be easier to make decisions.
Plan a Good time
You will soon find out that parents have endless responsibilities. Schedule an appointment/time with them that is when they are at their best. Do not tell them when they are tired from a long day at work and just walked through the door. If Saturdays are family days, fix breakfast and have a long talk.
Be prepared for anger
Your parents will not hate you, but you can not expect them to not be disappointed. That being said, your health and wellbeing will be the most important to them. They may yell, scream etc., but they still love you. Remember you had time to get used to it, they have had only a few minutes. Give them time to have the same emotions you had.
Visit your counselor
If you just don't think you have the nerve to tell them after all the above tips, visit your school counselor and ask him/her to schedule a meeting. That way you have moral support or the counselor can tell them for you. There are also pregnancy hotlines that can help during this time with education and support. Check them out as well.
I know this is a scary time, but it is also a time of growing up quickly. You have a responsibility now to make grown-up decisions. Tell your parents so they can help you make those decisions and love on you while you do it.
