What's the real difference between a man and a woman?
Other than physically?
Is it hormones?
Is it the way women think?
What about how women FEEL emotions?
When it comes to dating women, getting them to FEEL that emotion and sensation called attraction, men and women could NOT be more different.
I'll explain why understanding this ONE difference can take your game to a whole new level.
Let's talk about "Joe The Plumber" for a second. No, not THAT guy but some other dude named Joe the Plumber. Now, all joking aside, "Joe" grew up in a world as a kid watching TV, movies, and listening to MP3s about all kinds of stuff.
Somewhere along the line, he grew up believing that in order to get a girl to like him he had to do the following things:
a. Impress her.
b. CONVINCE her that he was a cool dude.
c. Buy her things.
d. Try and explain why the other guy was NO good for her.
e. Be a nice guy.
f. Be a total gentleman.
And yet, in the long run, none of those worked for him. Darn, even in the short run they didn't seem to work. What "Joe" did NOT understand was HOW women get this emotional feeling that they LIKE you.
As men, we are EASY to figure out. Women can read us like a book when it comes to a t t r a c t i o n. Why? Because the majority of men only have to SEE a beautiful woman and they become attracted.
With women, it's much more complicated. But there are ways to simplify it by breaking it down into smaller, more manageable parts. Now, you're probably not going to believe this when I say that women don't place 1/10th of importance on physical looks that men do.
In fact, an UGLY man who is very skilled at pick up can learn how to turn SOME women around by simply sticking with it. What I mean by this is that when she initially took a look at you she may have thought "this guy is not my type", YET after spending just a few minutes talking to you, she can't wait for you to kiss her.
WHY the change?
WHAT happened?
Simple. The guy understood how women become attracted to men. It's not just ONE thing.
It has to do with the way you look at her (hint: don't UNDRESS her with your eyes because that will give her the creepy-guy-vibe and will make her want to run away from you).
It has to do with how RELAXED you are around her (as though you've known her for a looooong time).
It has to do with learning basic conversation skills (hint: a lot of guys think they have to spend hours entertaining women and coming up with all kinds of neat routines and witty lines when nothing could be further from the truth).
You'd be amazed at how NORMAL, but FUN conversation can be if you simply do a few things. It has to do with approaching (hint: no matter what ANYONE says, you cannot get better with women unless you approach. Think of it as a martial art. The more you do it, the better you get at it, it's really not any more complicated than that. Those of you that GET this will start getting better results in 30 days or LESS).
How do I know all this?
Well, I've done it. I used to be so shy, I couldn't even look a woman in the eye. I've also shown thousands of men in other countries around the world how to up their game (I've got the copious amounts of email to prove it). Stop the insanity man.
Stop buying women drinks.
Stop complimenting them about their looks (at least not for starters).
Stop thinking that any ONE particular woman is "the one" unless you've known her for years and she has PROVEN herself to you.
Stop becoming fixated on ONE method or one way of pick up (hint: there are thousands of different ways to pick up on women).
Y'know, my buddy ViceroyX has picked up on some really HOT women by having insane frame control.My buddy Minor has picked up on some insanely hot model types by being a funny jack azz.
A student of mine named Jason picks up on his coed classmates by being incredibly sweet and smiling a lot. My point here being is that virtually anything will work IF YOU BELIEVE IT WILL.
I swear on my pet gold fish's grave that if you can do the following things CONSISTENTLY, you are going to blow away your own mind on how quickly you will get good at meeting and dating girls:
1. Read a lot - Did you know the more books, magazines, blogs, websites, etc. that you read (not videos but actually READ and exercise your brain) that you'll NATURALLY come up with more topics to talk about with women?
2. Approach like there's no tomorrow - If you can approach even ONE woman per day for 39 days straight without missing a day, you WILL have improved your pick up skills more than roughly 90-92% of the male population?
I can write that with confidence because very FEW men approach 39 women a year, let alone in 39 days (hint: for better results, add an extra approach per day per week).
3. Force Yourself to Do Something You're Scared Of - For me it was public speaking. Once I forced myself to do that, walking up to girls wasn't so bad. One of my buddies forced himself to ask his boss for a raise even though it scared the @#$% out of him. But he challenged himself and you know? He actually got a raise out of it too.
4. Go to cool and trendy places and observe how men and women interact. It is a fun exercise to do.
5. Study pick up - Study from as many PUAs and dating coaches as you can. Just don't read my stuff (I know its great but learn from others too).
6. Don't Quit.
I leave you this quote from Mike Litman: "You are either consistent or you are non-existent."
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Rod Cortez is an international dating coach who overcame his own shyness and anxiety attacks by utilizing his own personal power and creating methods for meeting, talking to, and dating attractive women. His free newsletter has helped men in dozens of countries around the world: http://TheDatePro.com
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