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I have always admired couples who are in a long-distance relationship. I mean...admired from a distance...Never thought I would willingly put myself in that kind of situation.
"There is no way on Earth I would do that" I always thought. "Too much torture"
Little did I know that I will find myself in one.
It started unexpectedly, and when we began communicating on-line, I had absolutely no idea that our interaction would develop into what it is today.
The thing is, I guess, that when you meet the right person and you are absolutely sure that this is the person you want to be with, you suddenly find yourself able to make sacrifices and you find yourself in circumstances that you might have considered unbearable before. But when you meet that person, the one that you are in sync with, on the same page as they say, something tells you that this person is worth it.
I do admit, it is not getting any easier - quite opposite. It's tough. On the one hand, you know there is someone out there who thinks about you, who desires you and you know you are not alone. In a bigger picture you are not. But you have to endure those days and nights when you are alone and you wish you could be with your baby.
Luckily there are ways to deal with this kind of loneliness. As soon as I turn my computer on and I see my baby, I feel better. We talk and laugh and we are connected. I see him, his apartment, and I can share his day or evening with him. We can cook together, play games or watch a movie together. It makes it a little bit more bearable.
The only part that hurts is that I can't touch him. I can't express myself in so many ways, in which I am longing to express myself. The way I feel about him.
On one hand, this allowed us (or forced us) not to rush into anything. I value it when a relationship develops on other grounds than physical. We could express ourselves on so many different levels. We had enough time to get to know each other so well... As time was passing by and we were progressing with this relationship, we explored each other's minds, personalities, thoughts, we listened to each other without being distracted by anything physical.
I will not lie - of course I was attracted to him physically as soon as I saw his picture and I know he was more than intrigued by my physique.
But the beauty in this was that the distance allowed us to build a strong base of our relationship. I am glad about how we started. By the time we met for the first time, we knew each other so well and we were already friends. That is something I strongly value in a relationship, in fact, I know I would not want a relationship without friendship. What is better than to start with a friendship? To create a strong base you can build everything else on?
It was this connection that instantly enhanced the physicality so much more and made it so much more intense....Because we waited for as long as we did, when we finally did experience each other, looked in each other's eyes for the first time, reached out and touched each other's skin, when our lips met for the first time, and all our desires were finally allowed to surface....it instantly became something so much more magical. Unforgettable...forever imprinted in my memory. No doubt about it.
Relationship Long Distance...temporary torture or blessing in disguise?
Janka currently works for a non-profit organization assisting immigrants in Toronto, Canada. She has always had passion for writing but only recently decided to fully explore it and progressively engage in it. Relationships, in general as well as her own, have always been intriguing and inspiring her, so she will probably explore this topic in most of her work.
Welcome to SearchWarp, Janka. In my life, I have only had one long distance relationship and that was just for a short time when my soon-to-be husband was at a distant college. It was not easy, even when we already knew each other so well. With the internet and cell phones, things are so different today than they were then. Now, a long distance relationship is commonplace. Good article.
Thank you so much for your comment Lorrie. It's definitely not easy and it's going to last a little bit longer unfortunatelly. I am pretty sure I will write more articles about it while I go through it...Your words are inspiring though...:-)
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