So what's the problem with Christian marriage today? The problem is men and women have not been taught in their church to partake in their God-given roles and duties in the ways of the Lord and consequently complete chaos and confusion has ensued. Society has turned marriage and love upside down!
Christian roles for marriage have become perverted. True or false?
Immoral Christian culture has taken hold of Christian society. True or false?
Feminism has turned a wife's responsibility in marriage upside down. True or false?
True, True, and True!
God's Word has not changed just because it is the twenty first century! Husbands still have the God-given responsibility to protect and provide for their wives in the ways of the Lord. Unfortunately most Christian married couples do not understand the Godly principles that are attached to the husband being the spiritual head and confusion has ensued.
What Are The Responsibilities of the Christian Husband?
* To seek God's will for his life and marriage
* To provide for his wife financially
* To love and care for his wife the way Christ does His people-The Church
* To protect his wife from outside influences and abuses
* To put his marriage first, above everything else including his work and children
* To discipline and love his children in the ways of the Lord
Do you think that if a husband were living out his purpose for marriage his wife would have a problem submitting to that purpose? I think not. But what is happening now in Christian marriage is the wife works all day, and she is tired too, and the result, both husband and wife begrudgingly do merely what is needed to sustain some sort of balance in the home. But they are both emotionally drained.
In some instances, because of needs notgetting met, husband and wife become disrespectful with each other. This unappreciative attitude keeps the household system in an unorganized and chaotic uproar. Pretty soon they begin to blame each other for the disarray of the marriage. The wife starts getting bossy with her husband and the husband gets bossy back and they both seek solace from outside influences.
Where is walking with the Lord, as the Christian is instructed to do?
What Are The Responsibilities of the Christian Wife?
* To seek God's will for her life and marriage
* To submit to her husbands spiritual management
* To respect and honor her husbands position
* To be a help-meet to her husband by helping to make their marriage and family life productive in and for the Lord
* To put her marriage first, above everything else including work, and even children
What can married Christian couples do today to save their marriage from becoming just another worldly marriage? They can bring God into the marriage and follow the God-given responsibilities that Christ has taught for couples to follow in marriage.
Do you see how when couples unknowingly keep God out of their marriage they begin walking as individuals instead of one flesh? The wife does her thing and the husband does his thing . But when you care for your marriage in the ways of the Lord, God's influence encourages you to be givers for each other-its part of the blessings of marriage.
On the flip side of the coin, when God is far from our own hearts, we become self-seeking, self-centered, and unappreciative and behave in ways that go against the will of God in marriage. Is it any wonder most marriages end in divorce or are unhappy?
Ask yourself, "Am I doing the will of God when I do this?" If the answer is no then pray about it. Ask Christ to guide you in the proper ways and lead you to being the man or woman that He would like for you to be for your marriage.
Are you seeking God's will for yourself and marriage? True or false?
I was hooked with your true and false questions in the beginning. Great article, good answers and tough questions. Well written. BRAVO! Marijo (Mary Jo is how it is pronounced)
Delineated ROLES?!? These are modern times,Angie;I wear the pants, and my wide beats me with the belt!(Think about a relationship,honestly,for a moment, as equally MUTUAL(E.G.;when a cop sees a couple making love,in the park,on the grass,he does NOT tap one of them on the bottom of the shoe and ask;"Hey!Who's in CHARGE,here?!") Any truly self respecting man wants an EQUAL,not a subordinate,in this stilted view.(Trouble is, that most men aren't truly self-respecting,and therefore tend to seek a submissive, subordinate wife that they can "look down on" so that they can feel superior)I could not disagree with this outlook of yours,more;its clearly medieval,in its premise;paul
Your comments confuse me because they are out of context. This article is written for Christian (Christ Made) marriages. Your comments confuse me and I'm sure they will also confuse other Christians men and women who are trying to have happy marriages, ACCORDING TO THE PRINCIPLES OF CHRIST.
In the world, where God is absent, men and women make themselves out to BE not equal...it is from their own doing...this is where feminism, equal pay, and women's rights, and independence for women with careers come in. This article is not talking about how worldly marriages should be but how God's marriage should be.
In a godly based marriage, men and women are equal! God doesn't look at a woman as anything less than a man and vice versa. This is precisely why God showed a husband how to love his wife properly....as Christ does His very own church. When a man loves his wife in the ways of Christ he is also submitting to his wife!! In God's world there is no looking down on one another as if one sex is better than the other...There can never be two bosses and controllers in one household--it will never work, or at least it will be very unhappy.
When a woman submits to her husbands love for her that doesn't make her less than him but makes her a better woman for her marriage and to God. As Christians and children of the creator, our very purpose is to serve God and not ourselves! All the stuff you talk about is serving the needs of oneself and are completely out of the context of this article. You would be better off reading articles that are based upon world views where the wife beats and bosses her husband around.
I also don't believe that most men seek women they can look down on or treat like a doormat...what they are truly seeking is a woman that will TREAT HIM LIKE A MAN. And I am sure your comments may be offensive to some men.
Your statements are way out in left field, and I'm wondering "why" you would even take the time to comment on an article that does not concern you or your lifestyle....
I still appreciate your thoughts even though they are worldly based and have NOTHING at all to do with this article.
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