There's a popular teaching going around these days, particularly in Seduction Community circles.
Basically, a lot of guys believe that no guy in his right mind should EVER get ANY kind of "dating advice" from women.
"After all", so the story goes, "they have no idea what they really want."
This fascinates me.
On one hand, I fully get how this sentiment would come about.
After all, there are quite a number of lady "dating gurus" teaching women how to trick guys into relationshipsafter all, we as men obviously (in their mind's eye, at least) "only want one thing", and a relationship isn't it.
And, of course, there's the age-old meme that women want "nice guys", when every "nice guy" out there has been slapped with the "Just Be Friends" talk
ad nauseam.
But on the other hand, I question whether an entire gender can fully and consistently wander around the desert aimlessly, having no Earthly idea what it wants out of MOTOS (members of the opposite sex).
And when it comes right down to it, I DO think women are PERFECTLY CAPABLE of recognizing-and articulating-what they want in a man.
No doubt, if you've been hanging out here for more than a month or so, it should be obvious to you that I value women's opinions regarding what they want in a man.
You've got video interviews with the likes of Pam and Kya to prove it. And I've never been shy about inviting "lady gurus" like Amy Waterman, Mirabelle Summers and Marni Kinrys to sit in with me to talk shop.
And then there's that OTHER "lady guru"some chick named Emily McKay. I've become fairly familiar with her opinions on men over the past few years.
So yes, based on what I've seen, what women TELL you they want in a man will indeed bear itself out in realityUSUALLY.
Hagot you there, didn't I?
But careful. We shouldn't be so quick to paint women as uniquely fickle and clueless in this area. The same sometimes holds true for us guys also, doesn't it?
As a matter of fact, the point of the whole matter is that a regardless of gender, one's taste in MOTOS is not exactly a BLACK and WHITE issue.
Consider, for example, how you may have spent your youth daydreaming of a tall, leggy supermodel of a blondie in your life somedayonly later to find yourself with a 5'1 former gymnast with raven black hair.
And you may indeed have been thrilled by that outcome.
Or maybe you always thought you wanted a woman who wasn't exactly a "shrinking violet"until you actually found yourself in a relationship with a woman who challenged your every thought. Then you reconsidered.
And see, that's the thing: Man or woman, I believe there are TWO very distinct areas where our opinions on what we want or don't want in MOTOS is very much subject to change.
The first is when our preference is built on PURE FANTASY rather than OBJECTIVE EXPERIENCE (read: "reality").
A petite woman may SAY she wants a man who is 6'4". And when she gets in a relationship with such a guy, she MIGHT be blissfully happy.
Then again, she MAY discover that there are some aspects of that arrangement she hadn't thought through ahead of time.
Or perhaps there's a guy (or three) out there who just crested the "Big Four-Oh" and is jonesing for an 18- or 19-year-old girl to date (yeshe said "girl").
Show me a man who longs to date em that young, and I'll often show you a guy who HASN'T done so.
Why? Well, because someone should be PAYING HIM to "babysit"that's why.
By the way, as an aside here, note that a TON of "limiting beliefs" commonly found on both sides of the gender ledger are often driven by PURE FANTASY, as supposed (or is that "imposed"?) upon the GENERAL POPULATION by today's media-driven culture.
Crazy isn't it?
But moving on, the second instance where what we SAY we want from MOTOS is subject to change is when an EXCEPTIONAL human being comes along who "breaks the mold".
You see, even if objective experience has crafted a very real, genuine preference in us; we just cannot logically dismiss the possibility-however remote we see it-that the "right person" is going to come along who challenges every thought, opinion and-yes-experience we've ever had.
After all, we as human beings are individuals. And with that individuality comes the wonderful, magical ability for any person at any given time to exceed the capacities of our imaginations.
So let's say you have a specific "type" in mind, and along comes a woman who breaks every blasted "rule" you have for who you're typically attracted to and compatible withor the subjective ones, at least, right?
Are you "settling" if you select her? Of course not. You simply "raised the bar" in a way you never expectedand in a way that only a certain, magical woman ever could.
By the way, make no mistake: No matter what YOUR "limiting belief" is, as long as you are a "Big Four" man doing the best with what you have, there are women out there for whom YOU will be a "magical exception" also.
Sound Pollyanna-ish to you? Stop kidding yourself. As sure as YOU have found yourself attracted to women without "logical" explanation, YOU can indeed defy "logic" in a woman's mind. Count on it.
So finally then, what about when you REALLY CAN expect when women know exactly what they're talking about when it comes to their taste in a man?
Well, essentially, that would be EVERY TIME other than those instances I've presented above.
For example, if a woman has been out with her fair share of guys, I think she is speaking from a position of authority when she tells you what will and will not lead to a second date with her.
"Magical exceptions", after all, are NOT common.
I think it's ESPECIALLY important to recognize that when either YOU OR A WOMAN express a like or dislike for a VERY CLEAR, OBJECTIVE thing, it should be taken at face value.
To dismiss someone's sentiments toward that which IS black and white is essentially to either utterly disrespect someone's common intelligence and/or to stick your head in the sand due to personal insecurity and or flat-out stubbornness.
So yes, when you say you don't like women who are raging alcoholics, I think it's a safe assumption to believe you mean itat face value.
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