In the first installment a few days ago, I shared with you some potential "dealbreakers" with women that are typically way, way beyond any man's ability to change on her behalf.
Let's face it, we as guys love to lead and women love it WHEN we lead.
So the thought of influencing change for the better in someone else-especially a woman we have "the hots" for-sounds good and reasonable to us.
Plus, there's just something hard-wired in us that wants to fix broken stuff.
There's a tremendous feeling of satisfaction in coming up with a key solution to a problem your workgroup is facing, getting the bathroom sink fixed and/or restoring a '70 Cuda to showroom perfection.
That's why we store jumper cables in our pickup trucks and carry a multi-tool in our pockets.
But women? They're human beings with their own priorities, desires, imperfections and, yesFREE WILL.
As we found out last time, there are some scenarios you're just going to be beating your head against the wall about if you're crazy (or arrogant) enough to think you can "flip a switch" and change things.
The GOOD NEWS, though, is there are OTHER situations that are TAILOR MADE opportunities to lead a woman to a more fulfilling place.
More fulfilling, that is, for both her AND for you
1) She Leads A Boring Life
Have you ever noticed how many women basically go to work, come home, watch the tube for a couple hours, go to bed and wake up the next morning to DO IT ALL OVER AGAIN?
Sure, some women are social butterflies with packed schedules, but a shocking number of othersnot so much.
Single moms notoriously lead very routine-based lives that are high in stress, yet low in excitement.
Guess what? Most women who lead boring lives aren't exactly thrilled about it.
Were you to come along and welcome her into YOUR reality, you'd be amazed at how soon you'd have a "willing accomplice" to join you in all your adventures.
So don't immediately pass off a woman who appears to lead a boring life as a "bump on a log".
Take her motocrossing, introduce her to Indian food, and show her what she's been missing out on.
In other words, lead.
2) She's Quiet
If you think that guys are the only ones who can get eaten alive by shyness, stop kidding yourself.
Remember, there are LOTS of women who clam-up when they're into to a guy.
So what you're interpreting as ZERO PERSONALITY (or even flat-out disinterest) in a quiet, stone-faced woman may actually be ATTRACTION.
Have you ever thought about it like that?
If you're the kind of guy who tends to automatically assume the worst rather than the best when it comes to gauging whether a woman likes you or otherwise, maybe not.
The solution?
Kick the "Big Four" trait of "ability to inspire confidence" into overdrive. Women are often shy or reserved when they're around someone they don't know that well.
How many times have you ever heard someone, especially a woman, say "I'm really quiet until I get to know someone."
Well, for all intents and purposes "getting to know someone" = "feeling comfortable around someone".
Give her space. Inject humor. Have a plan that has her best interests at heart at all times.
And yes, let the woman know you're enjoying her company. Withholding compliments and "negging" was NOT designed for women like this.
In fact, if the more she LIKES you, the more likely it is that your leadership in this area will draw her out. How's that for irony?
3) She's Not Very Affectionate
In many cases, this one tends to go "hand in hand" (pun intended) with #2 above.
What if you're out with a woman and she is giving you NO SIGNS WHATSOEVER of being even remotely attracted to you?
Some guys would immediately write off such a woman as "frigid" when they don't see visible signs of attraction.
I mean, several PUAs even TEACH guys to kick a woman to the curb if she isn't all over you early and often.
Well, here it is: A LOT of high-quality women have been taught to be VERY RESERVED when it comes to giving men signs of attraction early, let alone being overtly affectionate.
After all, being branded a "slut" is a high-quality woman's biggest nightmare.
Above and beyond that, there are PLENTY of cases where women have absolutely NO IDEA that they weren't showing any clue whatsoever that they were attracted.
They're the ones who write Emily wondering why guy after guy keeps not asking for the second date after it really seemed as if they all liked her.
Guys, not only can you and SHOULD you show some patience with these women, you should ACT ON the situation and LEAD.
Present yourself as a man who respects women and is the antithesis of the guy who is "in it for one thing".
Guard against coming off as sex-focused, and enjoy the experience of getting to know the woman from a holistic perspective.
Give her the gift of knowing that WERE she to show affection, you'd accept it gladly and not judge her for it.
And give her the EVEN GREATER GIFT of knowing that she can show affection on HER TERMSwithout pressure or the threat of "feeling used".
And above all, exude MASCULINITY as women view it and watch her femininity IGNITE as a result.
Kill the "neuter" stuff. No interview questions. Talk like a man and treat her like a woman.
Realize that if she's out on a second date with you, she probably is attracted. If it's a third date, take the risk and KISS her.
Take all of what I've outlined in this section into consideration, use it all in concert, and I assure you things will go very well for you.
4) She's Negative
Yepwe touched upon this on a couple weeks ago when we covered social skills.
But I can't emphasize enough that simply CALLING OUT a woman's tendency to "hate all sorts of stuff" really can put the kibosh on itfor good.
Sometimes women who are VERY negative are just very simply in DIRE NEED OF A POSITIVE EXPERIENCE.
Be that experience. Personify it.
And if that alone doesn't cut it, then yesaddress the "elephant in the room".
Tell her she seems like a terrific person to you, but you just aren't interested in populating your life with negative people.
Invite her to stop using the word "hate" so much, enjoy life and smell the roses.
The frequency with which such leadership literally stops a woman dead in her tracks will SHOCK YOU if you aren't used to talking so boldly with women.
But hey, think of it this way: Who really WANTS to be a bummer? Lots of women are thoroughly OBLIVIOUS to the simple fact they were even being negative at all.
I remember one time I met a woman exactly like that. I didn't argue with her, I simply offered to note every time she used the word "hate" in a sentenceto which she agreed.
A half-hour later she was a changed woman. Seriously. And I thoroughly enjoyed her company for many months thereafter.
5) She's Not As Attractive As She Could Be
I've saved the best for last, because this is truly one of the most under-rated gems of masculine skill in the world.
Yesyour masculine leadership and positive regard for a woman can actually cause her to become MORE ATTRACTIVE over time. Especially to you.
Think about it.
She may look great now. She may dress nicely. But you may still be "on the fence" as to whether this woman could be your "100 out of 100" or not.
But when she has a man like you in her life, her joy may increase. This affects a woman's overall beauty in every wayeven physically.
If you've ever experienced "The Glow" on the face of a woman who absolutely adores you, that's a key example of what I'm talking about.
Heck, being in a happy relationship may even cause her to pay WAY closer attention to how well she takes care of herself. Stranger things have happened.
And, of course, as you pour on the masculine charm, she'll AUTOMATICALLY respond with heightened femininity. This tends to have a very positive effect on us as guys, huh?
Maybe in college there was a woman in one of your classes who you barely noticed.
But one day you got to the dining hall for lunch later than usual, and since you usual crowd wasn't there you ended up having lunch with her insteadsort of by default.
Maybe you found yourself super-attracted to her from then onfor some strange reason.
I just shared the "strange reason" with you.
OK, what I've just shared with you carries with it some genuine reason for excitement, doesn't it?
After all, if you're like me you may have instantly written-off some if not ALL of the situations I described above in the pastwithout giving any thought to how you could positively affect the outcome as a man.
But you most certainly can.
Will your masculine leadership ALWAYS prevail?
Of course not. Human beings not only have free will, they tend to be immensely complex as individuals.
However, by arming yourself with what I've shared both today and in the first half a few days ago, you'll DRAMATICALLY increase the quality of your relationships with womenand of their relationship with you too, right?
