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Keeping things bottled up inside may not be good for your health. You've heard the saying, "I need to get this off my chest". Well, the results are in and the studies show that people in healthy, open communication relationships do generally tend to have better health.
It seems that there is a definite connection between the state of your health and your relationship. If you are having communication problems in your relationship, now might be the time to learn how to develop a better line of communication with your partner. Your health may very well depend on it.
If you feel that the communication problems in your relationship are the fault of your partner and that you are listening and responding properly then you might want to re-evaluate things and look at it from a different perspective.
Maybe it isn't entirely your partners fault. Sometimes it's easy to see blame somewhere else when making a few changes about how you approach a discussion or disagreement could make all of the difference.
First, it's important to make sure to keep yourself level headed and not let anger or emotions control the discussion. Keep things simple and focus on the problem at hand. It's best to only bring up things in a manner which are not argumentative and that means not getting carried away with what you think or believe but what you know. Something that is a fact and can not be disputed. This way to you get right to the root of the problem and hopefully reach a mutually agreeable solution.
Second, make sure that you are actually listening to your partner. Too often, we become closed minded when we believe we are in the right. We are all individuals and as a result we all may see the exact same situation through different eyes and interpret things differently. Try and understand their point of view and look for areas that you can agree upon before moving to areas where there is disagreement. Even then, keep things level headed. The object of the discussion is to resolve the issue in a way where both parties feel that they've been involved in creating the solution; it's not about proving who is right and who is wrong. There are no winners in those scenarios.
Third, reaching a mutually agreeable solution often involves give and take. Are you asking for things from your partner without offering anything in return? Even in business, it's only when both parties feel they've walked away with something of equal value as what they've given does it feel like a positive transaction.
In conclusion, while it takes two parties to communicate effectively, it only takes one to get the process started off on a positive direction. You've heard the saying, "don't fan the fire". The same thing applies here. It may take some time if your partner is used to being in a combatant or defensive position during these discussions or arguments but it truly does take two to argue and with you taking the lead in having construction communication, they will follow your lead eventually.
This way you will get to have your say and "get things off your chest" while doing so in a way that can bring the two of you closer and move your relationship forward while helping to preserve your health in the process.
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