We are all born with emotions, and begin using them while still in the incubator. We cry when we are lonely, frightened, tired, confused, angry and uncomfortable. We smile and laugh when we are amused or feel happy. These emotions stay with us for the duration of our lives. For most of us, it takes years before we can adjust these emotions when we are in pain, and use the knowledge we possess to change the way we feel.
This knowledge comes from experience. Let's say we like someone in High School, but they just don't feel the same about us. We are depressed and sad, and question why we are being "dismissed' by this person? A few weeks goes by and someone new comes into class, and a connection is felt by both. A relationship starts, and we couldn't be happier. We no longer understand why we were attracted to someone who is self centered and obnoxious and failing every class.
We remember the daily crying spells, and realize that our darkest hours gave way to our brightest awakenings. We have learned one of life's greatest lessons, and future disappointments are easier to handle. "It was meant to be" was one of my mother's finest bits of wisdom. We may not think so at the time, but it usually becomes apparent at a later date. We may get married and have our heart set on a house that falls through. We are heart broken and angry, and hate hearing, "it was meant to be"
However, a few months later, there are septic trucks and bulldozers at the property you so wanted, and you realize their septic went, and you wouldn't have had the money to repair it. Or when someone buys the car you had been saving for, and you find out the transmission went. The others had their own lessons to learn. Our lesson is to realize and remember in the future, that sometimes, our darkest hours, can be our brightest awakenings. Learning is the key to our mission while on this Earth, in my opinion.
My opinion comes from reading many books on Christianity and near death experiences. The common thread seems to be to learn from our mistakes and use that knowledge to our advantage to improve the quality of our life, and of those around us. If we find that when we communicate, we rub people the wrong way, we can change that. We can lower the tone to our voice, and pick words that aren't so offensive. Three words can change the whole vibration of a sentence: "What do you think you're doing?" to "What are you doing?"
Every person has a way about them that either entices people to want to be around them, or causes people to want to stay far away. Some don't care how they are perceived by others. They never change, and they never enjoy God's green Earth they walk on. Chances are they'll live a lonely, angry and boring existence. However, they might not think so. There is, indeed, change that can occur if one wants to be a better person.
Life can be happy if we want it to be, but it takes work on our part. We should be aware of the way we say things, and not put others on the defensive. If we are always late, and miss a good paying job opportunity because of it, maybe we should put more effort into being on time. All the things we were planning on getting with our newfound paycheck, must be put on the back burner for now. The shiny new car we put a down payment on-gone. The apartment we love-gone. Our cell phone-gone. Our lives change course and all because we couldn't be responsible enough to be on time.
We swear we will never be late again, and we rearrange our patterns and keep our word. Our darkest hours can be our brightest awakenings. Going through a death or a divorce, can test all our boundaries and use up all our resources. We learn to go through pain and loss, and train ourselves how to handle our emotions in a calmer, more constructive way. Trauma doesn't truly go away, but we can accept the way we feel and make strides to improve our character.
If we lose someone close to us, we can use the feelings we are going through to strengthen our resolve and be stronger the next time we need to deal with heartache and pain. Since I was young, I have lost a grandfather, 2 grandmothers, 8 great aunts and uncles, an uncle, a great grandmother, a great grandfather, a cousin, a mother and a father. I know what an aching heart feels like. However, this is what life is about, and these family members were part of my life. Dealing with each one, made me stronger to deal with the next.
After the first few times, I knew how to handle myself and my emotions in a calmer way. I learned that time heals all wounds, or at the least, makes them easier to deal with. I learned there was hope for a new, improved way of living. I learned about strength of character and the will to live happily. Sometimes, our darkest hours can be our brightest awakenings.
I learned there was hope for a new, improved way of living. I learned about strength of character and the will to live happily. Sometimes, our darkest hours can be our brightest awakenings.
it amazes me how many people don't ever think of learning and growing, they just stay the same, and wonder why the same problems keep happening to them. learning is growth, and growth is wisdom.
intresting article and comments; its truth how many people spin wheels and never get anywhere and don't understand that they need to just let feet off the brakes to move foward
» left by Linda DeWitt from Ca. (28 days 14 hours ago.)
My greatest mentor taught me that there is always something good in everything that happens. We just have to learn to look for it. For me that has been true. Good article. Thanks for sharing.
i know there's always a silver lining, it's just hard when you're in the thick of things. but knowing things happen for a reason and that there is good in everything, is a great help.
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