How to get over a breakup
Yesterday I
got a mail from one of my readers telling me that she has done
everything to forget the person she used to love. She told that she has
deleted his pictures, stopped chatting with him online and even deleted
his contact but still she "sees him in every place she goes to and
wishes that he was with her".
It's clear that my friend has done
some of the advices that can help people get over an old relationship
but she didn't pay attention to a very important point, thinking about
a person in such a way is one of the biggest mistakes that can hinder
recovery.
Its not about deleting his pictures, its about deleting him from your mind
I
strongly agree with deleting pictures and past memories because this
helps the subconscious mind realize that the relationship is really
over, however, you can't delete the person picture in the morning then
keep thinking about him in the evening.
The subconscious mind
needs solid proofs to believe that the relationship is over in order to
start healing but with such contradicting messages, it will become
attached to the little hope that appears to be present.
Thinking
about someone you loved will only remind you of the good times you
spent together, will let you recall the good feelings you had with him
and will strengthen your desire to bring him back.
What to do if you can't control your thoughts
We
are not robots and certainly we will remember the person we used to
love every now and then but the problem is not in remembering the
person, its allowing these thoughts to grow by remembering the old
times, wishing he was here and by thinking of how possible it is to get
him back.
When people lose hope in getting something that they
really wanted they usually become depressed, however in relationships
it works the other way around, when you lose hope in getting someone
you loved so much you start to recover.
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