We hear it from the time we are young up until we are grown from our parents. Don't settle, you deserve the best, you deserve better...and so on and so forth. And for the most part it sticks. We strive for better pay, the job, car, house and everything else we think we deserve. Which leaves the burning question; why is it I can name so many things I don't like, or would like to change about my significant other. I would also like to point out that if you weren't thinking that before you are now. Anyway in most cases two or three things come immediately to mind. The reason why, and the sad truth is we have settled. In some cases it lasts and in others it doesn't.
We all start with this idea of a perfect mate in our head, but unfortunately that's all it is. Just an idea, or a picture. There is no such thing as perfect, but we search and search and search. All the while becoming more and more dissapointed and frustrated, until we say the hell with it I can look past (insert annoying behavior) or I shouldn't let (insert angering behavior) get to me. Yes we eventually give up on looking for perfection and settle for some we can stand...and even then we are wrong more often than not. fortunately circumstance, convenience, laziness, being scared, and a whole lot of other crap excuses keep couples together semi happy for many years, or keep horrible, or one sided unhappy relationships together.
What I am getting at is settling in your partner is inevitable. None of us are perfect, but there is someone out there whose crap you can take, and vice versa. I'm the first to admit I wouldn't trade my other half for anything. I am also the first to admit it is because I would only be replacing her crap for another girls. Out with one set of issues only to take on a whole new set. Pointless. As much as I hate her attention whore myspace page, or her middle school like, write his name on my notebook like, obsesion with lil uno(a rapper, who happens to be ugly, which really adds insult to injury), there is no way I would find someone else who would keep me 100% happy 100% of fhe time. So I stay, and I'm sure she stays for the same reason.
That is why each and everyone of us settles, even if we don't realize it because there is no way not to. No one is perfect so a perfect mate does not exist, and looking for one will yield only dissapointment. So find that special someone you can love just enough to tolerate and be happy.
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