If they are having an affair then you need to sit down and talk things through to see if the relationship can be salvaged.
If they have turned gay or lesbian and it's not a phase their going through then it could be the end of the relationship
If their excuse is about the person you have become, and they don't like that, then the answer might possibly be the same as above. However, and depending how much this person in your life means to you, if it's a matter of you putting on weight then you need to lose it. If you don't dress sexy enough, then dress sexy, or if to them your personality has changed then stop and think...is it them that's changed. You can only change so much that is asked of you but you have to draw the line somewhere. Living a lie to please another is not the best solution for staying together; in fact expect many upsets to rise from it.
Want sex but can't perform?
First we have to take into account the matter of health as being a reason why sex for some couples doesn't happen. If the health matter is of a serious nature that sex is never considered then unfortunately I'm afraid the information that follows will be of no help to you. But for those whose sex problem is due to what is deemed a medical problem but can be bettered and improved then hopefully the following info will help.
Erectile dysfunction (ED) is a common cause for the Willy to lie low. It was once referred to as impotence. ED is the inability to get and sustain an erection so the penis stands stiff and stays this way for as long as it takes to have sexual intercourse. Most frustrating for man and his partner is managing an erection but not able to hold the rigid penis until ejaculation has been delivered. An accurate diagnosis of erectile dysfunction is usually noted down if a man is unable to get or maintain an erection in at least 50% of his attempts at having sexual intercourse.
Erectile dysfunction in most cases is only temporary; it normally corrects itself without help. While in other blokes it doesn't, and will need medical attention. In most patients it does not affect their sex drive, and neither does it cause problems for achieving orgasm once an erection is present.
As of late, psychological issues were said to be accountable for the vast amount of cases of erectile dysfunction. Much of the advice given to impotent men in the past was "not to worry it will take care of itself." How long is taking care of itself. They say men think about sex at least every 6 minutes or were it 6 seconds of the day. Can you imagine telling a bloke with sex on the brain looking to have his ED sorted that he has to wait. It's like telling him he can have a bike at Easter but can't ride it till Christmas, that's if Christmas ever comes. Today, there has been a major step up in diagnostic processes and much sophistication in the approach to the problem of ED. And because of this and medics taking more of an interest, it is now claimed that most men who suffer the condition do so due to physical factors. Erectile dysfunction can lower a man's self esteem all because his penis remains low also when it's not supposed to. This condition can harm a relationship but why let it when it's treatable..
Stress is high on the list as a common cause for preventing sexual intercourse. It's a catch 22 situation because it's said even if you do get your oats (sex) it can leave you stressed. What do you do, have sex and get stressed because you're getting it, or don't have sex and get stressed out because you're not getting it. At this present time we are dealing with the matter of not able to perform in bed so let's not deter ourselves from what we are here to mend. And that's to get you're Thomas to stand erect. If you think about the consequences (stress) it can interfere with your performance. It's sad to learn that from something you enjoy doing i.e. dipping your wick can cause so much misery. So this is one lesson we need to ignore, if we are going to get your sex life back on track.
Self help stress relief If sex leaves you feeling miserable, worried, anxious or confused then talk to a close friend or member of the family who will listen and understand what you are feeling, or going through. Being able to share your troubles or problems will help rid stress.
Though stress itself can reason a drop in sexual desire, engaging in lively sex or simple hugging will relax you. They say penetrative sex is the better than oral sex or masturbation for helping people suffering from stress. While penetrative sex is actually practiced a hormone called 'Oxytocin' is secreted. This hormone has mind soothing effects.
Music has great healing qualities for different things and stress being one of those, and especially more so if listened to in a tranquil location.
Positive Thinking - You need to be optimistic because pessimism induces the ill effects of stress. Believe in yourself and half the battle is won.
Stress Reliever Balls - These are great in helping relieve stress, squeezing the balls sidetrack the mind from the cause of stress.
Stress and Herbs - If you prefer the natural approach for treating your stress then herbs to consider are Kava Kava, Chamomile, Valerian, St John's wort.
Nothing beats laughing to feel good, it costs nothing to smile and giggle. Laughter reduces the blood levels of cortisol, which is the stress hormone; it also activates the immune system. People benefit because it raises the blood levels of endorphins which have got mind soothing and pain relieving effects.
I know it's no laughing matter when you can't have sex but it sure beats crying over it.
You can only ever fix a problem if you know what the problem is so talk to your sexual partner or the doctor if it's a concern for a medic. If you are experiencing problems and your marriage is on the rocks and want to save the relationship regardless of it including sex or not, then you need to do what other couples are doing and get the right advice from the right person.
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