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I know this may seem as a touchy subject, and it may be a bit personal for some. But, this subject is an important subject to bring up considering your child has, or will lose their virginity to their babysitter, or one of your friends.
It all started when I came up with a way of getting to know more about my mates; I would ask them how did they lose their virginity, and most of them replied, "With my babysitter, or an older lady that was a friend of my parents."
After several of the same responses (over a course of years), I became curious of how [males] others "lost" their virginity. My journalistic hat was on my head before I realized it, and I would ask my male friends about their "first time". The responses were overwhelming, and might I add - mouth-dropping. At first.
While on myspace, friends and I started to blog on the subject one day, and the conversation grew more astounding as the responses overloaded the blog. It turned out to be a three page thread on the subject; the men on the blog seen it as "no biggie" that they had experienced their first time with an 'older' female, and the females had shared average experiences, being that of a boy her own age. It was very few [females] that had been led into sexual experience by their babysitter.
So, perhaps the issue lies within older females, and female babysitters. Somehow, I have to stand ground because I was a professionally Nanny before my Journalist career started, and I have never even imagined having sex with someone I was babysitting. Yikes! To me, it seems disgusting to want to have sex with a child. Of course, many may say that the babysitter is just a child as well. But, I still say that holding a position of a "babysitter", gives that person the role of an adult; i.e. you are babysitting ... get it?
The first time should be a special one, and shared by someone close to your age. Of course, this is my opinion, and it may be shared by others. But, I don't want my opinions to be at the forefront of this submission, I want to point out that there are things going on in your home when you are away ... feeling secure that your children are in good hands, when in fact the very secure hands you left your child in care of, are the same hands exploring the child's body.
This subject has me filled with questions: Could the experience scar the young child in future sexual experiences? Is it possible that having your first sexual experience with an older person, more than likely shape your dating style/taste? Of course, I have a long list of questions, but I shall not ask them all here in my submission.
But, I do have one, ultimate question to ask my readers: Isn't this against the law? To have your child's innocence stripped by someone like a babysitter? Well, if it is a law that is, and can be broken, why aren't there more parents filing claims? Could it be the fact that your children are not sharing their "new" experience with you? Just imagine your young son being excited about losing his virginity to an older female, and not wanting to be embarrassed by sharing his 'experience' with his Mother ... kind of like Catch 22, right? Right. Regardless, talk to your children, and find out what is going on in their lives. At home, and away from home.
A child should feel more comfortable talking to their parents rather than anyone else. How often does your child tell you about whats going on in their lives?
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