There are certain situations that are so painful, we need to heal before we can begin to feel any comfort. Our healing comes from thinking things through, and talking to ourselves, and our God. This process may take time, but anything worth fixing takes time. Our ways of dealing with anger and pain may need to be modified. Patience goes a long way in the healing process.
Sometimes, we are forced to be patient, so the sooner we gain some, the better. It's really about learning when to let go. Keeping all of our emotions bottled up only causes rage and anxiety. We yell at our kids or our spouse or any number of people we come in contact with. The best thing we can do for ourselves is to prioritize what we get so mad and frustrated over.
If we lose our job, and therefore, are in jeopardy of losing our home and cars, emotions will be at their highest peak. If our dog forgets that he needs to go outside to do his business, does our anger level match losing our job? I have found that if I talk myself into realizing most things are no big deal in the realm of things, I don't get as emotional.
There are different ways of dealing with situations. One is to react to our feelings, as when we drop a carton of eggs on the kitchen floor, and every last one breaks. We could yell, carry on about the mess, or, simply get a roll of paper towels and start cleaning it up. There's less energy in cleaning than in yelling. No one is infallible, but if we can get ourselves to think about what's going on, and do what needs to be done, the episode is over.
If our mind is telling us "it's no big deal" our body will relax. Our minds can tell our bodies what to do, and vice versa. Sometimes, we simply need to rest, or have a cup of tea, or go for a walk. Usually, we get the signal from the brain that tells us we need to do such things. If we listen, and take a nap or go outside, chances are we'll feel better.
If we work on clearing our soul of all the baggage of the past, we will feel calmer and more at peace. Our soul will comfort us in times of stress and pain. It is the core of our Being, and what I believe, is our connection to God. Without a lot of garbage in the way, the soul can feel whole and comforting. It can stand strong with us, or weaken our resolve. I believe all energy emanates from the soul, so the stronger the soul feels, the better we feel.
Comfort is a good feeling when we have so many things going on, usually at once. To understand what we can control, and what we must accept that we can't, is helpful in keeping our state of mind calmer. There are always going to be crisis that are unavoidable, but if we can keep ourselves in tune with our minds and souls, the journey won't seem as hard.
If we can picture a stream of light occupying our inner core, giving us hope and peace and strength, we can handle our problems with more ease and less frustration and anger. Each step towards comfort brings us closer to true happiness and contentment. Little things don't matter as much, and big things are easier to deal with. Let the light shine, and the soul comfort.
