Well actually you do get exactly what you want you are creating your life just the way the want it right now! As we move through our daily lives we are already influencing what happens each day, how we behaved and what we thought about yesterday has had a direct impact on what happens today. You can at any moment consciously change the way your day and in fact life is going to turn out.
You may or may not believe it but our world is governed by the Law of Attraction and simply put this means that ‘what comes around will go around’.
In many of my workshops I get people who say “but I have only ever wanted to make a lot of money, if that’s what I want why haven’t I got it already?" It does not take long to discover that the energy that this person is sending out into his daily world is one of ‘lack’ of not having what he wants. This is an important distinction with creating, as you focus of the ‘not having enough money’ that is exactly what you will continue to create, ‘not enough money’! It works in precisely the same way with relationships you will always attract the kind of person that you believe that you deserve.
A client said to me recently that she had met a new man who she thought was wonderful, she explained that all the men in her past had been abusive, but she thought that this man was different. As she continued to talk about him she said “actually he is too good for me, I am sure there is something wrong that he would pick me". This woman is planning her demise with this man although she does not realize it. She is setting up the way the relationship will go forward, she will create exactly what she thinks and unless she learns to create purposefully and be proactive in positive creating, her man will undoubtedly see that he is ‘too good for her’ and then she can claim her ‘evidence’ and go on to recreate precisely what she ‘wants’
Creating is simple because we do it every moment, your thoughts and actions determine your life. Where you are in your life right now is a reflection of what you think and believe you deserve. There are many reasons for your own beliefs and expectations and why you are creating the life you are leading and understanding them can propel you into being a conscious creator. Many people look for ‘quick’ fixes to their lives and everyone who attempts this finds that it really does not work. Although there are no quick fixes there are proven and short term processes that you can do to enable you to learn how to recreate anything you really want, rather than what your subconscious is working on without your attention.
The single greatest reason for not creating successfully is awareness this is a fundamental fact of creating ‘you are only aware as much as you are aware right now!’ this is so important that you need to ‘hear’ it again ‘ you are only aware as much as you are aware right now!’ , think about it. At this very moment in your life you are only doing the best you can with the awareness that you have, right now! Until you are willing to see that if you are not creating what you think you want and it is because you are not more aware about your ‘real’ wants then you will not be able to move towards your true desire.
Let’s take a clear example, let’s assume that you want to loose weight because of illness related weight problems. You know that the kind of food that you’re eating is not good for you and only adds to your obesity. You read a lot about this and you even go to weight classes to try and ‘control’ your problem. You really think that you are aware about what is going on after all you have read and taken the advice of many professionals who tell you that you need to loose weight because it is damaging your health, yes? Everyone you speak to you tell them ‘ I know that I need to change my diet and I have tried again and again, I know its doing me no good to eat junk food, I am very clear about it. I have tried everything. Of course I am aware!’
Yes they are aware as far as they are willing to be aware in this stage of their chosen development. We only ever do anything because we hope that it will make us feel better, everything we do is always to lead us to a place of feeling better or good about ourselves, whether what we actually do does in fact ‘do’ us any good in the long term.
In someone else’s opinion they might find it very hard to understand why someone cannot ‘just eat healthily’. For them the way in which they might not be aware is in an abusive or unhealthy relationship and their friends may also be bewildered by their regular complaining about their relationship but not being able to give it up. We all have ways in which we continually sabotage what we really want in our lives and we simply but not easily need to become more aware right now.
Going back to our obese person who does everything they can to ‘get’ themselves to eat more healthily, what lies beneath this potentially life threatening behavior?
What if they were guided to see and become more aware about what goes on for them just prior to eating? What if they were encouraged to become more aware of what they say to themselves before they embark on a shopping trip for food? What if they could be taught to stop the moment before they put a fork of food into their mouths? And in all cases ask ‘How do I feel?’, ‘Why do I need this?’ ‘What does it give me?’ This would be the beginning a them being more aware of what is really stopping them from creating their true desire.
Awareness takes persistence, determination and clarity and embarking on purposeful awareness will open inner doors that have been closed to you for a long time.
If our overweight friend was more aware that they, like all of us , deserves to be fit, well and healthy and if they really cared about who they were and understood that it is there divine right to be happy, loved and complete, they would never abuse themselves as they do. It is because they are not aware of who they truly are that they do this.
When we become to see that we are creating every moment and what we think about ourselves determines everything we want our awareness expands and we can learn to create better, like the creators we are.
Linda Bretherton author of The Creating Game book
www.thecreatinggame.com
