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by Shawn Bent
What makes you attractive? Is it the clothes you wear? The job you have?
Or is it the way you think and feel about yourself?
While many people spend a lot of time focusing on their outer selves, often times they do very little for their inner selves. Your inner self governs the way your life flows. Until you start to work on it, your life will continue to wilt like a flower that doesn’t get enough water. Allow me to explain.
In life, people often take on the job of feeding themselves with negative feelings and images. As a result, we often end up wearing the clothes of guilt, resentment, anger, frustration and doubt. We may seem attractive to others on the outside, but on the inside, many of us are unattractive to ourselves.
Believe it or not, the very thoughts and feelings you feed to yourself this very second attract the resulting situations in your life. You are like a magnet attracting the very bits of steel that are a mirror of your inner self. All too often, though, we dirty the magnet and we stop attracting what we want and start attracting what we don’t want. Not necessarily a road you want to travel down.
Think back to a point in your life when you were in an energetic, vibrant mood. How many good situations did you attract that day? An abundant amount, I assume. Now think of a day where you had a mood as dark as the night sky. Did you feel a lot of things that day went wrong? Probably so.
Is all this making sense?
If so, then score 1 point for you for at least being aware of how the process works. With all this in mind, I’m going to present to you a few tips to help clean your magnet so you can be the attractive person positive situations will die for.
Forgive yourself – This is a big one. If you are very unforgiving to yourself, chances are you’ll lose respect for yourself at the speed of a jackhammer. When you beat yourself up over mistakes, success comes to a crawl. Listen: we all make mistakes and we all have our down days. But it is not the end of the world. Stop criticizing yourself. Mistakes are actually a vital part of personal growth and put you closer to getting what you want. Reflect upon the mistake then just let it go. You are not a mistake. You’re only human.
Feed yourself with more positive feelings and images – See yourself as a person free of frustration, guilt and other negative emotions. See yourself as a person filled with confidence, happiness and fulfillment. Feel what it would be like if you were that person and feel yourself achieving what you really want. Picture the image you want and feel it with deep conviction.
Focus on the things you want – Have you ever focused on an object while you were driving, and all of a sudden you started to head towards that object? Human beings work the same way. If you focus on what you want with a burning desire and pair it up with action, you will naturally head towards that result. If you focus on what you don’t want (which many people unconsciously do), you will…well… head towards that result also.
Be constructive with your negative situations – We’ve all had setbacks, mistakes, failures and other complications in our lives. Face these in a constructive manner instead of a destructive manner. Instead of “I shouldn’t have done this…I’m a failure", say “How can I turn this situation into something positive and to my benefit?" Do this often. After awhile, you’ll start to see positive situations automatically coming your way in the wake of negative ones. Burn this message into your head with conviction: There is no failure, only success.
Love yourself and respect yourself – Be true to yourself. Cherish what makes you unique. Embrace that person when you look in the mirror. When you love yourself, others will start to love you too. Or as Oscar Wilde once said “To love oneself is the beginning of a lifelong romance."
Follow these tips and I guarantee you the fast track towards more success and less frustration and doubt in your life.
Shawn Bent is a writer who lives in Ottawa, Ontario, Canada. He specializes in Reflective and Awareness self-help, is a member of Toastmasters International and is the self-published author of the book “Make Your Imagination Rich". “Make Your Imagination Rich" can be seen on www.canadabooksonline.com in the self-help section. If you would like to learn more about the book, please do not hesitate to contact Mr. Bent at shawnbent@canada.com .
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