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I know …
I know … who wants to get flirting advice from a middle-aged man? When you picture this situation, you
probably see yourself sitting in front of the television, beer in hand, trying
not to roll your eyes at the flirting advice coming from the mouth of a man
with a beer gut and a middle-aged wife nagging him. Conversely, you might be envisioning getting flirting advice from
a smooth-talking guy with slicked-back hair who gets the ladies because he’s
got deep pockets. But this is not that
kind of flirting advice and it’s not coming from that kind of middle-aged
man. No, instead, this middle-aged man
is the one who is average looking and of average income but who has years of
experience in the changing world of flirtation and has developed flirting
advice which works more often than not.
This flirting advice is good for both men and women of any sexual
orientation.
The best
of the flirting advice gained through hard experience is the rule that if
you’ve got it, flaunts it. This is
followed quickly by the lesson that if you don’t have it, you shouldn’t display
it. This flirting advice applies not
only to the physical but also to other levels of flirting interaction. How many times have you been around that guy
who told a joke, and everyone laughed to be polite, so he told a dozen more? You don’t want to be that guy.
What you
learn as you go through years of flirting is that there are very few people who
have it all. You just aren’t going to
be the most beautiful, smartest, mort powerful, most charming, funniest person
in the room, because that one person just doesn’t exist. As a middle-aged man, I’m just not going to
have the body of a twenty-year-old guy.
But what I do have is my own collection of traits and experiences. The best flirting advice I can offer is that
you have to realize what your strengths are and make use of displaying those
strengths to others in a way, which is natural for you. The purpose of flirtation is to interest
another person in you, so showing them what’s great about you is the way to go.
The other
critical piece of flirting advice I can offer is that flirting is supposed to
be fun. You should enjoy it for what it
is, rather that always aiming for a specific goal and being disappointed if you
don’t achieve it. For example, if you
are flirting with a girl across the room at a club, and she invites you to
dance, but you don’t leave with her number, you can have two reactions. One is to be disappointed that your
flirtation didn’t lead to a whirlwind romance.
The other is to be happy with the fact that your flirtation interested
her in dancing and you probably had a good time while doing it. Flirtation doesn’t always lead to
satisfaction, which is what keeps us all interested in the game. It’s the reason that people who are
perfectly happy in their committed relationships often flirt with others. We like to be liked and some of the best
flirting advice I’ve found is that there should be just as much pleasure in the
chase as there is in the catch.
Related
to this is the flirting advice which starts with being comfortable with who you
are. As you get older, you realized
that most people aren’t paying attention to your flaws nearly as much as you
are. You are your own worst critic when
you should be your own best friend. If
you take nothing else away from this flirting advice, take this: if you are a person who enjoys flirting and
does it appropriately, your flirtation will usually be well received. |
