Flirting is as old as man. In the past, flirting was viewed with disgust and a flirt was considered out of tune with morality. But things have since changed.
Today, flirting is glamorized.
A flirt is considered "cool" and flirting is regarded as a 'legitimate' way to relieve stress. The internet has magnified this.
Some web sites promote what is called discreet flirting. Such web sites connect men and women, married or single, and encourage members to go beyond just friendship to something more intimate. These web sites openly promote illicit sexual behavior and tell married people that cheating on their partners is modern and smart.
Unfortunately, these web sites and their promoters have a great following. Consequently, flirting has grown from just an epidemic to a pandemic. No wonder many marriages are failing!
However, nothing can be further from the truth. The truth is, flirting is a betrayal of trust.
Anyone who partners with a flirt for love is partnering with failure
Bottom line. A flirt lacks commitment. A flirt cannot commit to you or anyone. So, if you are serious about settling down and having a happy loving mate to spend the rest of your life with, make sure that person is not a flirt.
A flirt lacks trust. A flirt does not understand the value of trust. He throws it away for a few moments of pleasure. Flirting hurts its victims badly. But the flirt doesn't give a damn about that. Now you see why I say a flirt is a bad candidate for marriage.
Flirting goes beyond just a betrayal of trust. It wrecks marriages and causes heartbreak. When the innocent partner finds out her spouse have been cheating on her, things are never quite the same again. Trust comes crumbling down and the relationship is at the verge of failure.
Just how important is trust and commitment in relationships?
Well, I'll tell you.
Trust is everything. Without trust, there is little point in having a relationship. Commitment, in real terms, is devotion to one person, one love, one partner and just that partner. Commitment engenders trust. Where commitment is lacking, trust disappears.
To illustrate.
Would you trust a man who tells you he's in love with you and only you but then tells another woman exactly the same thing to get her to go out with him? Most likely you won't. You know why? Simply put, he's not committed to you alone. And so you can't trust him to protect your interests.
In summary, flirting is a blatant betrayal of trust. A flirt is a criminal.
Flirting destroys marriages and indeed, any love relationship. Sure, having so many women around you is fun. Every woman is unique in her own way. Your wife is unique in her own way too. So, you may feel you can fool around with the women so you get the best of both worlds, the best of every woman's world.
However, those few pleasurable moments in another woman's arms will ultimately destroy your marriage. You will lose everything you've worked hard to build.
Is flirting worth the cost?
No, No, No.
Love your mate. Stay with her. Commit to her. Do not betray her. Do not look at another woman. Do not even fantasize about how life will be in another woman's arms. Maintain, protect, and defend your commitment to your wife.
Detest flirting.
Your mate will love you for it. She will trust you. And your love will last forever. You will live happily ever after. In the end, that is what counts.
About The Author
Samson Itoje is a seasoned author and relationship expert. He offers cheating husbands advice at http://www.true-love-relationship-advice.com/cheating-husbands.html and relationship counseling at http://www.true-love-relationship-advice.com/relationship-rescue.html.
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