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When you are dating someone, or even in a serious
relationship, a well placed compliment will show how much you enjoy being with
that special someone. Most women love being complimented, particularly by
someone she might be romantically interested in.
Because giving compliments is a good way to show your date
that you are paying attention to them you have to know when to use them. Don't
get carried away with the compliments because you do not want to overdo it. You
want them to know you are paying attention but you don't want to come off as
needy or desperate. Nothing sends up the desperation flag quicker than a whole
slew of cheesy compliments.
You want your compliment to put your date in the right frame
of mind. You want them to be accepting of you and who you are. How you
compliment should be an extension of who you are, which will help them get to
know you better.
Now the question becomes, what do I compliment them on? That
depends on you and your date. If you are meeting for the first time find two or
three things that you are really attracted to when you first see them. Now
don't just blurt these out, store them away for later on in your date. After
you've spent a little time with them go ahead and compliment them on whatever
you noticed first about them. It is also important that you say it like you
mean it. This will show them that you are attracted to them and that you are
paying attention to them.
If you have been on more than a few dates and know this
person better then finding the right compliment will be easier, and sometimes
harder. You can't use the same compliments over and over again you have to
notice new things about them, or something they may have changed. Say a new
hair style or highlights, or how they are dressed. Let them know how good they
look so they know that the time and effort they have put into whatever they
have done was worth it.
Let's turn this around and look at it from the other side.
When you go on a date the one thing you are really looking for is a sort of
acceptance. And being complimented is something that can make you feel very
good about not only yourself but also your date. It means they like what they
see, and physical attraction is very important when dating. It also means that
the effort you have put forth to impress them has paid off and that can be a
very good feeling. That feeling is what you hope to create for the person you
are going on the date with.
Remember, a good compliment can be a powerful thing if
used right. Use them as needed and be sincere. A well placed compliment can be
a great ice breaker and can lead to a truly wonderful date.
Andrew Bicknell is a writer and owner of Romancing Hearts.com. Please visit his website for more advice about Online Dating, Romance, and Matchmaking.
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