If you wish to get rid of him because he has begun to bore you, or you have found someone else, or you suspect he will never propose—deal with him kindly. After all, he is human, he has shared many pleasant hours with you— and besides, you may want him back some day.
Who knows how it happened? Maybe he slept with his boss one too many times. Maybe she went to a ghost-hunting convention and was never seen or heard from again. Or maybe your love simply faded like bath towels in the sun. Whatever the case, a breakup is in the wind.
Unless you’re 12 or a Trappist monk, you know how unpleasant a trip to the dump can be—for either party. Is there a good way to end things with a boyfriend or girlfriend? That’s debatable. But there are definitely a few bad ones out there. Cheating, for instance. Or just pretending there’s no problem whatsoever until one day you come home and hit your lover over the head with a lamp. Some people bring in a pinch hitter to do the dirty deed: Breakup by Proxy. Others fire off a barrage of accusations and then storm off: the Ammo Dump. But there are a few more.
One of the worst ways to handle a breakup is to simply not mention that it happened. Women, in particular, are familiar with this popular technique, wherein their boyfriends simply vanish without having the decency to mention that the relationship is over. Obviously it’s over, otherwise you’d still be nuzzling on the couch and calling each other goofy names. Instead, you’re sending text messages into a black hole and spending your valuable time wondering, worrying, wearying.
Is this a decent thing to do? No. Do people do it anyway? You betcha. In fact, the Psychic Breakup (I’m thinking of sleeping with a number of women between one and ten) seems to be growing in popularity. Of course, it’s got a ways to go if it wants to compete with the Big Switcheroo, a longstanding breakup technique in which an old partner is slowly eased out of the picture and a new one eased in until suddenly, you realize you’ve officially become number two.
“I think it’s a mistake to date when you’re still involved with another person and have neglected to tell them you’re no lon ger interested," says Sonia, 29 from www.Dating-Site.ws. “It demonstrates lack of resolve, immaturity, and is just across-the-board disturbing. Which is not to say I haven’t done it myself."
Of course, many people do manage to dredge up the strength and resolve to actually break up with their dates. The problem is, they do it via email. Or voice mail. Or through some impartial third party, which will send a private prerecorded message (and/or lovely floral bouquet) to the person you don’t want to see anymore.
In our ever more responsibility-free world, in fact, breaking up with someone face-to-face is becoming almost passé. The Digital Dump is now so common—and so handy—that Internet dating sites have started incorporating it into their services.
Cowardly or not, it’s quick, it’s easy, and it’s becoming more and more acceptable, at least for those short-term Internet flings. When it comes to LTRs, of course, any kind of Digital Dump is bad juju.
“A friend of mine actually left a message on a woman’s answering machine to break up with her," says Robert, a 37-year-old single from Olympia. “He couldn’t understand that you should break up with a woman in person. Especially if you’ve been sleeping with her for over a year."
Still, voice mail and digital breakups do trump an invisible dump. They can even provide a safe platform for clearing up misunderstandings, airing grievances, and expressing feelings that are often difficult to put into words, especially when a vase is careening towards your head at 90 miles an hour.
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» left by Anonymous (2 years 60 days ago.)
So, what are the ways for women to end the relationship? I didn't see that answer. I only saw victimization appeal for Bitter, Party of One. Respond to this comment
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