How To Give a Good Back Massage Without Formal Training
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Posted: Wednesday, May 11, 2005
by Spencer Carroll
Since the back massage is such a keystone, paramount to the success of couples across the globe, I have compiled the layman’s guide to giving a great back massage.
The Set Up
Have your partner lay on their stomach someplace comfortable, with enough room around their body for you to be able to maneuver around. The best place is often times a bed or futon, anything large and comfy. Then, depending on how comfortable you two are together, either straddled their back or sit to one side.
As with all things, you have to ease into a successful back massage. You should know ahead of time that the massage might take some time and as such, requires the proper amount of warm up period before the actual deeper massage begins.
The warm up is easy. Use both hands and apply gentle pressure with the tips of your fingers in slow circular motions, moving up and down the side of the spine. To the left and right of the spine are where the largest group of muscles and their attachments are located, the sides of the spine are also where you’ll usually find ‘knots’ in muscle which can be worked out later in the massage. Once you’re done warming up the spinal muscles, move to the shoulders. Again, using your finger tips in slow circles gently massage over the shoulder blades and up towards the neck.
Now that her muscles are warm and loose, it’s time to start the massage. Splay your fingers out along her back and with the pads of your thumbs gently, but more firmly than in the warm up, begin rubbing circles up and down the sides of the spine. As the massage progresses you should feel confident to ask your partner how hard or tender they enjoy their massages. Remember, this massage is for your partner and so you should cater to their desires.
Again, once you’re done massaging the muscles along the spine work up towards the shoulder blades and knead the larger muscles that in between the spines of the shoulder blades and the backbone.
If you hit an area of muscle that feels especially tight, like a small “knot" in the muscle, very gently begin to rub circles around and on top of the small bundle of muscle using the pad of your thumb. Don’t press to hard or it will definitely hurt and ruin your chances at making a good first massage impression. Start gentle and work up to firmness that they're comfortable with.
Now, as in the warm up, use all four fingers to massage the muscles on either side of the spine in a kneading motion. Image waves coming up on a shore, that’s the motion that your hands should be making on their back. This action is more of muscle warm down and should only be done once you’ve thoroughly kneaded the muscles with your thumbs, which are far stronger than your fingers and will allow the massage to last much longer.
The Warm Down
The warm down is basically the warm up in reverse. Instead of increasing pressure as you go, decrease it, until you’re basically rubbing your partners back. This will soothe the recently kneaded muscles.
Basics to Remember
A good back massage should have proper pre and post massage attention if you truly want your partner to be impressed. Stylistically, start gently with your finger tips and then move to deeper, harder kneading with your thumbs. End the massage session with a gentle fingertip rub the muscles which should finally lead into a back rub to end the massage and place you on a pedestal in their eyes.
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» left by Anonymous 2 years 70 days ago.
There is nothing unique about this advice. Have you people no creativity? And a good Massage shouldn't always be about getting laid.
» left by Anonymous 1 year 301 days ago.
thank you very much, although this post is very old, it is still very helpful. my girlfriend has been very stressed out this week with her new job, her and i are spending the whole day at my house saturday, and i think it would be very nice to give her a back massage to help releive some of that stress :)
» left by Olivia from California 1 year 294 days ago.
I was shocked about how much my, in this case, victims, hated this treatment. One even called me and asked what was done to her back because her muscles were hurting like crazy!! I do NOT recommend this massage treatment to anyone, especially someone who is going to perform this treatment to a customer who is not related or a close friend!!!!
» left by Cherisa 1 year 276 days ago.
Olivia, not trying to be rude, but you probably did it wrong. Most liely, you rubbed too hard on the knots or didn't properly warm the person's muscles up. Judging from the multiple responses before yours that were all positive feedback, you should have contemplated that it might have been something you did.» left by Cathetine 1 year 234 days ago.
I used it to my boyfriend he said it was amazing how I did it, he never got hurt he said I had such a wonderful hands that do magic on his back..
» left by Zelda 1 year 121 days ago.
Loved this article it works really well. My partner loved it!!
» left by hanna from schotland 1 year 50 days ago.
me and my huz after he said my hands are as smooth as a babys but and we land in to sex thank you xxxxxx
» left by Lemisa 1 year 30 days ago.
I haven't tried it on my boyfriend yet but i tried it on my sis,she LOVED it!,hes next,great article
» left by Michiel from Holland 364 days 5 hours ago.
Worked really great for me thanks !
My better half loved it and since then i give her a massage at least 2-3 times a week, good tip for giving a massage.. when your using an oil or maybe after a nice day at the beach after sun cream or sunscreen for that matter, always remember to warm the oil or cream in your hands don't splash it on the persons back that doesn't feel nice its cold.. bah a good start makes for a better end ^^
» left by Dakota from Gresham oregon 345 days 3 hours ago.
This is so amazin... Me and my girl had broken up but we stilllive together. We hadnt realy talked or fixed the probs. But she came home one day and her back was kilking her... So I massaged it for her using this method. It worked.. She was so greatfull and and we are now in good terms. Maybe even be able to work things out... :)) thanj you!!!!
» left by Timmy!! from South park colorado 332 days 19 hours ago.
I was giving a massage using this method to my girl and it relaxed her so much she farted. It was very unexpected and unpleasant. I couldn't finish the massage and now I am less attracted to her. I ended up trying this on one of my female friends just to see if it worked without dumping in the middle of it. She said I was awesome. So it does work if done correctly. Just make sure they don't relax completely.» left by brandy 288 days 1 hour ago.
You seem really immature. What, girls can't fart? She was completely relaxed, give her a break. It's not like you didn't know girls were capable of doing that. Seriously, not even finishing the massage and then going on and doing it for some other girl. That's a jack ass move.
» left by Shade 221 days 13 hours ago.
I'm gonna try this to a woman I'm trying to impress. She is looking forward to me giving her a back massage. And I am good, but I want to get better. She works 17 hrs sometimes so I know her body hurts. But her back is the worst. I really hope this technique works. I'll be back. Hopefully I see her Tuesday.