There are so many stages in our lives, but we may eventually find time to reinvent ourselves. This doesn’t mean change to the degree you don’t know yourself anymore, but calming one’s soul to the point of thinking with one's mind in a more positive and spiritual way. This change usually comes when things have reached their potential, and it’s time for a little more rational thinking. We spend so much time worrying about so many unimportant and damaging thoughts throughout our lives.

The littlest thing can set us off. This could be a slow car driving in front of us, our kids arguing, or spilling something and needing to clean it up. The doctor’s office is a good example, because there usually is a long waiting period. We seem to have to wait a great deal in this time of ours’ on Earth. Years may go by with us being stuck in one place. Our patience is low, our judgments are high, and we’re just not happy with the way things are going for us. We may be estranged from people who once shared a large portion of our time.

We may have gained weight and are not happy with the way we look. Our hair may be thinning, the house may need repair, and we just don’t have the energy we once had. We teeter between depression and the desire to take care of whatever we need to in order to have a fuller, happier, and more positive life. If we are diligent, we will absorb knowledge to do so by reading self help and motivational articles or books. Chances are we will see in print what we are feeling in our lives. Perhaps going to therapy sessions help us think in a more productive way.

We can reinvent ourselves to be who we would admire and be proud to know. First, the arrogant and negative voices in our heads have to go. We can train ourselves to talk in a calmer, slower, more positive and more relaxed way. We may use too many words when we talk and we can focus on getting to the point quicker and with less words. If we need to, we can lose weight and change the cut and color of our hair. We can commit to slowing ourselves down before it’s too late. We can focus on keeping the bad energy at a minimum, and the wise energy at a maximum.

As we begin to feel better, we can evaluate the changes we made and commit to keeping those negative thoughts at bay. "How important is it?" to waste our time living life on the defensive? Did the car we beeped at go any faster? Did the orange juice someone spilled cause our frustration and anger to show through? Do we simply wait until the slow moving vehicle turns off at some point? Do we also simply get a few paper towels and clean up the spill without yelling and getting upset?

Life can feel so heavy when one is depressed or angry. It is oppressive and needs to change if we want to live a happier and more exciting way. I know one can reinvent themselves, because I have been doing so for the past year. First, my mindset had to change. I had to learn to think a different way. We need to just get up and do something that needs to be done without frustration or anxiety. We need to get rid of all negative judgments. We need to stop and think before we speak. All of our ideas or thoughts don’t need to be shared.

We need to be more sympathetic to others. And as we do so, we may find that our behavior is showing that our goal is getting closer. If we can, some new clothes is a great pick me up, and if we feel good, we look good, and vice versa. Holding our tongues instead of blurting out something inappropriate may avoid an argument. As time goes on, these skills for good relationships and a better feeling towards ourselves will come easier and more frequently.

I had to give up the past and start living in the present. This has been very hard, but eventually, it was accomplished. My relationships are better, and built out of trust, loyalty, and love. No one is perfect, however, the more one focuses on reinventing those things that just don’t serve us or those we care about well, the easier it gets. Self control is a powerful tool and can be used wisely. We all have the ability to reinvent ourselves and make positive changes in our character if we are determined enough to try.

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